Malton Seadog
21-09-08, 19:50
As you may have read in another post, this is the only real anxiety I have problems with at the moment.
I am a student at the University of Huddersfield, and I'm commuting from home where I live with my mum.
My girlfriend, who I've been happily with for 2 years, lives 60 miles away in Doncaster where she has just qualified from Huddersfield as a teacher.
She hasn't got work, so has to be at home a) because we can't afford a house together and b) she has signed up to a supply agency so she has to be at home to take calls from them on a morning.
Because of this, I get to see her perhaps 3 days in 10. This is very difficult for me seeing as I saw her every day for almost a year during the academic year!
Now - the thing that concerns me most is the thoughts I have. I am seeing a mental health specialist every week who says that the thoughts are natural and I should let them happen but ignore them. They are so irrational it's unreal. This girl means everything to me, yet my anxious mind is telling me that we might as well not be together if we can't see each other every day. I'm actually grinning now because it's so absurd!
The very interesting and reassuring thing is that my other symptoms are getting rarer by the week, but the seperation is what is causing me problems.
The other reassuring thing is that when I spent 3 days with her recently, I was fine. I had perhaps 40 minutes in 60+ hours with her where I felt anxious, and that was because I was tired. I gave her a big hug and it made me feel so much better.
After all that - there is one simple question which I hope has a simple answer.
Is this seperation anxiety down to one simple question - Do I miss her so much that I can't bear to be without her?
I am a student at the University of Huddersfield, and I'm commuting from home where I live with my mum.
My girlfriend, who I've been happily with for 2 years, lives 60 miles away in Doncaster where she has just qualified from Huddersfield as a teacher.
She hasn't got work, so has to be at home a) because we can't afford a house together and b) she has signed up to a supply agency so she has to be at home to take calls from them on a morning.
Because of this, I get to see her perhaps 3 days in 10. This is very difficult for me seeing as I saw her every day for almost a year during the academic year!
Now - the thing that concerns me most is the thoughts I have. I am seeing a mental health specialist every week who says that the thoughts are natural and I should let them happen but ignore them. They are so irrational it's unreal. This girl means everything to me, yet my anxious mind is telling me that we might as well not be together if we can't see each other every day. I'm actually grinning now because it's so absurd!
The very interesting and reassuring thing is that my other symptoms are getting rarer by the week, but the seperation is what is causing me problems.
The other reassuring thing is that when I spent 3 days with her recently, I was fine. I had perhaps 40 minutes in 60+ hours with her where I felt anxious, and that was because I was tired. I gave her a big hug and it made me feel so much better.
After all that - there is one simple question which I hope has a simple answer.
Is this seperation anxiety down to one simple question - Do I miss her so much that I can't bear to be without her?