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thoughts and actions
24-09-08, 09:19
hi guys
i HAVE to go to the hairdressers today- last time i went was 3 months ago so really am in need of some scissor action.
My problem is i hate the hairdressers- even worse than the dentist- this is due to a bad experiecen when i was a kid.
Does anyone have any tips/ hints i could maybe try today.
xx :blush:
Aww hun,
try to concentrate on how fab you are going to look when your hair is done, read loads of mags when you are there, me personally i concentrate on what i'm going to wear when i'm finished and how i'm going to wear my make up.
Keep telling yourself its nothing bad and its a treat
best wishes
di xx
pinkpiglet
24-09-08, 09:44
I used to love my, six weekly visits to the hairdressers. I always had well tended locks and kept up with my low-lights. Then i had bit of a panic attack in the hairdressers one day and now i avoid it like the plague. My last chop was in February (oh the shame of it!) and i am absolutely desperate for a good scissoring. I bumped into my hairdresser in town the other week and the sheer sight of her alone left me a bumbling wreck. I bet she thought I was mad (with mad hair to match!). So obviously, i cannot offer you any encouragement, although i would love to. My mum is even treating me to exclusive £200 massage day next month to celebrate me been a mummy for two years and i'm dreading it!!! Why do we dread things that are good for us?
Good luck with the hairdressers hun, let me know how it goes x
pink,
I had the same thing happen to me so what i did is i told my hairdresser that i suffer with panic attacks, and guess what..........so did she. However now for convenience sake, i have a mobile. You ought to try it, it makes it easier when they are in your house.
i had the same hairdresser for years and she recently moved so i had to find a new hairdresser and was dreading having a panic attack in the salon,so i spoke to the hairdresser about this and without going into too much detail just explained that i tend to panic in new situations,she was very sympathetic and knew someone who suffered from this as well,as a result i managed my trip to the hairdressers,i was booked in at a quiet time of the day and she kept me talking the whole time about anything and everything,she now knows more about my life than most! Whilst i wouldnt tell everyone new i meet about my panic attacks i felt in this situation i had to,im due for a trim soon and hope i can manage this next visit as succesfully as the first. I think you'd be surprised how many people can relate or be sympathetic to this.
thoughts and actions
24-09-08, 13:13
thanks so much guys for all u support!!
my appoints not till 2, u wanna see the size of the handbag am taking :roflmao: , i have books, mags, sudokos, i pod, wee note pad with cbt stuff in it.
Hilarious!! so if i or anyone within a 5 mile radius of the hairdressers takes not well i have my bag of tricks.
just hope they dont get hair die on it- i contemplated doing a diy job but no am going to do this- ive done it before, i can do it again!!
luv to u all
xx
freakedout
24-09-08, 13:37
Hello everyone,
I have to say, this post has had me laughing my head off. Is it the hairdressers/haircut/colour etc that you are worried about or the situation?
I am overdue a haircut. The last time I went I had a new stylist, before that I was able to go first thing on a Thursday morning with only the owner and myself in the salon. Well she is doing well and has taken more staff on, which is not a good thing for me.
So, the last time I went, having done well to work myself up from dry cuts, to cut and blows, then the full works; colour, I was feeling fairly confidant and agreed to the new stylist doing my hair. OMG it was awful. I was sat in the seat furthest away from the door, which made me flap, and there was a customer beside me, and a customer behind me'ish. I had the streaking cap on my head and was sitting there totally freaked out, panicking. I wanted to run out of the salon but new I would look a total idiot running out with the streaking cap on my head. I flicked through some mags at a hundred miles per hour not even noticing what I was looking at. It was dreadful, then after the colour came the cut and she took so long, I had my horrible reflection to deal with then too. By the time it got to the blowdry I thought my ordeal was nearly over but she took so long I thought time had stood still.
I died a thousand times over, a horrible horrible experience. I was so relieved to get out of the salon and swore I wouldnt go again, but I have an appointment tomorrow for a trim, with my original stylist. Hopefully I will be in the seat nearest the door and I am not having a colour. I might even just go back to the dry cut if I am feeling anxious.
It would be good to know how you get on thoughts and actions, and please keep that big bag on standby for me, I could do with an emergency back up plan. An eject button on the chair would suit me fine, in case I need to make a sharp exit!
Freaky
Whilst I absolutly love going to the hairdressers, I feel uncomfortable sitting in that chair for long periods of time. I dont like the feeling of not being able to get up and out if needs be. I have just started uni and I feel sweaty and shaky when I sit in a lecture hall with 180 other student nurses (probably because they are all pretty ladies lol). What you are feeling is perfectly normal. Let us know how it went? Send us a pic too!!
Good luck with your appointment :-)
Mine desperately needs a trim too but I can't bring myself to go yet - though maybe as my boyfriend keeps calling me "Hagrid" I should probably be brave and go soon!
freakedout
24-09-08, 22:24
emma,
Oh that was so funny, Hagrid!! I hope you can pluck up the courage to go soon! No offence of course, it has just tickled me that, I keep laughing to myself!
Freaky
Whilst I absolutly love going to the hairdressers, I feel uncomfortable sitting in that chair for long periods of time. I dont like the feeling of not being able to get up and out if needs be. I have just started uni and I feel sweaty and shaky when I sit in a lecture hall with 180 other student nurses (probably because they are all pretty ladies lol). What you are feeling is perfectly normal. Let us know how it went? Send us a pic too!!
steveo i can totally relate,in my third yr at uni,first day back,sitting with the same class i have for two yrs now and lasted half an hour before i had to walk out,im so angry at myself for letting it get to me,but second day tomoro and i will survive the whole day,i can do it!
Thoughts and actions how did it go??:yesyes:
Well we all know how to spot us agoraphobics, we've all got wild overgrown hair, put us in a room together and we'll look like the hairbear bunch lol.
How did the hairdressers go?
di xx
thoughts and actions
25-09-08, 15:12
hi guys
I never thought my post yesterday would create such humour hehe, well let me tell u how i got on......
My phobia about the hairdressers stems from my friend deciding to die my hair blonde a few years ago- she took the foils off and it was awful- a kind of greeny/ginger/ blonde colour- and she cut it all wonky- to this day i wonder what on earth i did to her. It took years to grow again, So i have a fear that my hair will be a mess so i have to sit for 2 hours before i know or not :( Let me tell u bout it..........
1. About 13.30 to 13.50 i did breathing excercises, was fine- the hairdressers is a walk away from my house so left at 13.50
2. 13.56 saw sight of the hairdressers, thought i was going to vomit- my legs went to jelly and my handbag felt suddenly really really really heavy.
3. 14.00 arrived in hairdressers, sat in seat, felt okay- not as bad as last time- girl asked me what i wanted done and i must have repeated myself about 10 times, then i changed my mind.
3. 14.30 - foils r on head, i am sweating buckets my vision is blurry coz i have hair hanging over my face and its tickling me. Notice i am not as fidigty as last time and i havent panicked yet- felt anxious but no panic.
4. 15.15- foils r still on, this woman has come in and my stylist is doing her hair - i start thinkin am going be here for ages
5. My panic/anxiety started as a result of a relationship (wont go into it but i am no longer with him) at 15.16 my ex walks into the salon- i swear to god he did, i nearly died i hid behind a magazine (bearing in mind my head is covered in foil so u wouldnt notice me) He was making an appointment to get his hair done- in a womans salon?????????? i always wondred bout him
6. 15.25 girl comes over to wash my hair- my bum has gone to sleep and i suddenly fear am going to loose control of bodily functions- make a kinda squeeking noise and announce oh my bums gone to sleep. I proceed to rub it and walk to basins
7. Hair washed and stylist comes back and cuts and blow dries it- my face is bright red with the heat.
8.16.00 a whole 2 hours and its finished and i must say my hair is lovely, really plzd with it and the colour is great.
As worried as i was yesterday i did feel anxious but i didnt have panic as i managed to control it- it made me kinda proud coz i realise how far i have come since july- lets just hope next time i go (xmas 2012) that i am panic free hehe
xox
oh no the ex walked in.................
A huge well done to you for getting through it all, especially when the ex turned up, wonder what he's having done!!!!
I bet you feel good, not only did you not panic but you had your hair done, double bonus.
di xx
well done you!! you should be so proud of yourself for managing to get thru it!
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