andie73
28-09-08, 11:37
Hi guys,
Haven't posted a thread for a while so maybe a bit rusty lol.
Dunno what's got into me lately, I just can't believe people when they say I haven't annoyed them, upset them, irritated the etc etc.
I've got a work friend who I get on really well with and have met up with outside of work twice in last few months ( we're both female and married by the way, lol). Anyway, I asked if she wanted to meet for coffee sometime soon, and she made a joke about coming over to where I gonna be on holiday in 2 weeks. As she goes there all the time herself, has friends there, and it takes about an hour and half to get there, I didn't realise it was a joke.
I told my hubby she was gonna come over etc etc. I e mailed her next day asking if she was bring her hubby etc, and what day she would come, she said it was a joke. I felt really stupid!!! That was on Thursday and as I don't work Thurs and Fri tomorrow is the first day I will see her.
I got in such a state on Friday thinking that I wasn't the kind of person anyone would want to be mates with my hubby rang her. She said everything was fine and that I was too much of a worrier, which I am.
Still, problem is, I really like doing stuff with her as we get on well and have a good time. She just doesn't get as much time as me as works more, and is not really a massive socialiser. i feel as if I've made myself look desperate for friends as she now knows how insecure I am and how little I think of myself.
I feel really stupid posting about this, as it sounds so silly. I just feel rejected. She didn't say no to meeting up, she just didn't agree to it. I see that as confirmation I'm not friend material.
I'm really dreading work tomorrow as I can't avoid her as we work nearby. I've sent her a text to try and get some reassurance, but had no reply. Again this is confirming my beliefs about myself. Am I being stupid about all this???? I feel a bit anxious, help????
:wacko:
Haven't posted a thread for a while so maybe a bit rusty lol.
Dunno what's got into me lately, I just can't believe people when they say I haven't annoyed them, upset them, irritated the etc etc.
I've got a work friend who I get on really well with and have met up with outside of work twice in last few months ( we're both female and married by the way, lol). Anyway, I asked if she wanted to meet for coffee sometime soon, and she made a joke about coming over to where I gonna be on holiday in 2 weeks. As she goes there all the time herself, has friends there, and it takes about an hour and half to get there, I didn't realise it was a joke.
I told my hubby she was gonna come over etc etc. I e mailed her next day asking if she was bring her hubby etc, and what day she would come, she said it was a joke. I felt really stupid!!! That was on Thursday and as I don't work Thurs and Fri tomorrow is the first day I will see her.
I got in such a state on Friday thinking that I wasn't the kind of person anyone would want to be mates with my hubby rang her. She said everything was fine and that I was too much of a worrier, which I am.
Still, problem is, I really like doing stuff with her as we get on well and have a good time. She just doesn't get as much time as me as works more, and is not really a massive socialiser. i feel as if I've made myself look desperate for friends as she now knows how insecure I am and how little I think of myself.
I feel really stupid posting about this, as it sounds so silly. I just feel rejected. She didn't say no to meeting up, she just didn't agree to it. I see that as confirmation I'm not friend material.
I'm really dreading work tomorrow as I can't avoid her as we work nearby. I've sent her a text to try and get some reassurance, but had no reply. Again this is confirming my beliefs about myself. Am I being stupid about all this???? I feel a bit anxious, help????
:wacko: