The big fat Zero

[Veronica H]

:weep: Just a quick moan. Does anyone else hate seeing how many people have read their post and passed by without offering an encouraging word? I understand the various reasons why people feel unable to respond but maybe we could loose the column which shows us how many there are!

Veronica

[pinkpiglet]

Hi veronica,
The first thing i do when i log in is to go through all the posts since my last visit and see which ones have had the fewest responses. I will then read them, and if i can i will offer advice or reassurance. if not i just say hello. I would hate to think that someone in need of a 'hello', 'welcome', 'hug' or advice gets pushed to the back of the queue!

[pinkpiglet]

I tell you one person who always offers a welcome and hello to everyone regardless as to wether she can help them or not is JODIE. So may i take this oppotunity to say 'well done Jodie, it shows you care' xx

[Veronica H]

hi Pinkpiglet

Thanks for replying! Yes I have noticed both yourself and Jodie are very welcoming to others. I feel better for getting this one off of my chest. I think I would have felt very hard done by if this post had the big zero next to it. thanks again
Veronica

[Missy69]

Hi Veronica,
I think we have all at some point experience the big zero !! I do genuinely feel that people dont just pass it buy, maybe they just feel as though they cant help with that post and leave it to the people who might be able to offer help, sometimes i have sat and read very long posts, and have sympathised with there situation, but dont feel i can offer advice or help on that certain subject. Maybe start dropping a hi in there at least eh !
Take care Sarah

[jo61]

I've had a few of these. I think it's because people don't always have something to say. Try not to take it personally. I used to feel like you do but not any more.
:hugs:

[jodie]

hiya

ahhh thanks pink hun

i do try to reply to threads but at times they may be one that i feel i can not help in as i know nothing about the subject,and no good advice to i think this is the same for many people .
veronica stick with it hun there is so much help on nmp and so many nice people
have a :hugs:

jodie xx

[Franz]

Veronica,

Sometimes when there are lots of people posting, new threads can disappear off the first page before anyone's had a chance to respond, and you don't get many readers. I've experienced this.

Also, I guess some problems are more common than others and inevitably people tend to read posts by people with similar problems. For example, I tend not to read many threads about things like health anxiety because my problems are different, and I feel that other people will probably be able to empathise and offer advice better than I can.

If you don't get responses, just post again - it most definitely is nothing personal. People here would never ignore you deliberately.

F

[Hope 2]

Hi Veronica

It took me ages to find the courage to post a thread on here cos I am frightened of rejection. As the others have said, it isn't personal. But it is hard to not feel that when you don't get many replies. Sometimes I put a lot into someone's thread and they appear to ignore it. I also don't often post in some threads cos I am anxious of saying the wrong thing.

Not long ago I posted something very personal and difficult. Most of the replies were mine. You answered and touched upon the very thing I guess I was looking for, confirmation that my past was unacceptable.

Hope you are okay chuck and continue to be a part of nmp :hugs: .

Julia xx

[samc100]

Hi - I have had the big Zero. Made me feel a littel unloved but I have also read other posts and been to scared to answer ( usually in case I make things worse!).

Like Jodie I tend to just answer on areas I feel safe with. There are entire chunks of this forum I haven't even visited.

Hope you feel less lonely xxx

Don't take it personally Veronica.

[lesleya]

Hi ...yes its a horrible feeling when no one replies, but i must admit i only reply to things too when its about something i know about, otherwise i tend to steer clear in case i upset someone by saying the wrong thing.
But i hope your starting to feel better now.
Take care
xx

[Veronica H]

:D Thanks everyone, I feel like a shameless attention seeker now!....only joking. I still can't stand that zero though.:mad:

love to all
Veronica

[Tina A]

Hi Veronica,

Just to say I must admit I am guilty of this - not because I don't sympathise with people's posts, but because most of the time I am viewing on a handheld, which won't let me post a response!

When I am online "proper" - as now, I will try to respond whenever I can - but this is not all that often due to my work pattern - please don't take it personally!!

Also, I guess a fairly high number of viewings might be by people who are not registered with the site, and therefore can't respond?

Take Care, Txx

[Neilr1978]

right second time lucky.

I think we all try to give relevant advice to people that are seeking help.And i for one have read posts where people are wanting advice and i dont know what to say because with certain threads i have not enough knowledge on that particular subject.
What im gonna do from now on is even if i cant give advice im gonna let people know im being supportive of them and just try to let people know they are not alone on here.

Thats what i was trying to say.See us men can be a bit thick sometimes and it takes a couple of attempts but we get their in ther end lol

[bottleblond]

Veronica

Sending you some huggies huni

Love Lisa
xx:bighug1:x:bighug1::bighug1:

[Veronica H]

Tina,neil, Lisa
thanks for your replies and support.

Veronica

[belle]

I can totally relate. Its very disheartening.

[Anna C]

Hi Veronica,

I read so many threads on here, but reply to very few, because I don't know what to say or I might say the wrong thing! Also other peolpe always seem to say it so much better than I could. But I never mean to offend or upset anyone.

Take care Anna xx:hugs: