v v v anxious about wedding tomorrow... :-(

[orangeblossom]

Hi everyone,

I have been worrying myself into an early decline about a friend's wedding tomorrow lunchtime. I've only recently been back on the tube/bus and she is getting married in South London which will take me approx. 1 hr to get to on either the tube/overland train. I am terrified. Completely and utterly scared witless.

But, I really want to go too. My Mum posted me an outfit from home to wear and I've got it all ready... I'm just so scared.

All those people ... plus the food at the reception (I also have emetaphobia which, as you can imagine, really doesn't help).

There will be a Church wedding and this will be followed by a reception *gulp*. I figure I can just sit at the back of the Church. But there is transport provided to escort the guests to the reception venue - apparently only 10mins or so away. Guess what the transport is? A route-master bus. I'm not sure whether to laugh or cry at this!!!!

I'm not sure if anyone can give me any help/advice, but any would be REALLY appreciated because, as I've mentioned, I'm just so very very scared.

:weep:

[keepemlaughing]

Go for it, no matter how scared you are. You will feel so much better about yourself afterwards. Just being there for your friend will mean so much. Let us know how it goes! I am rooting for you!
Blessings,
Sheryl

[minihaha]

Ok this might sound a bit daft but you say you have a new outfit to wear that you are really excited about............ok , so get yourself ready and in front of the mirror say to yourself, i look great, i love what i am wearing and i am going to be fine. Also imagine your friend's (the bride) face when you walk into the church, sharing her day with her and overcoming the transport issues and also looking fantastic. She will be delighted to see you and you never know, you might just calm some of her nerves when she knows you are there. Take some water with you, deep breathe and sing with all your heart in the church and before you know it the ceremony will be over.

I hope you have a lovely day and let us know how it goes x

[Veronica H]

Hi orangeblossom
I think everyone has given you great advice so far. I am sure you will enjoy it as happy occasions have a way of creating a positve atmosphere which everyone gets swept along by.
veronica

[janeybaby25]

You should def try & go, that way you can prove to yourself you can do it. I have in the past forced myself to go places where I have been too scared to go before just to prove to myself I can do it & I am ok. Are you taking anyone with you? that way, you can always latch onto them for support. I hope you have a wonderful day, I know it will be scary at first but I bet once you get there & in the celebratory mood, anxiety will be the least of your worries as you will be having such a great time. xxx

[Carolinemargaret]

Hi,

I know exactly how you feel, i had the same thing in June, except I was the chief bridesmaid and it was in italy. I hate flying and started having panic attacks weeks before going and even when I was there I spent a lot of the holiday panicking or crying.

I was also worried about the day of the wedding, as the church was a 40 min drive from where the reception was and I had to go in a special car with the other bridesmaids(who i dont know that well, i wouldn't have been able to speak to them anyway as the two little flower girls were there and i wouldn't want to have worried them). I was terrifed that something was going to happen on the way to the church and then on the way back to the Hotel.

Anyway, my friends made me get up and get ready in the am and go around to the brides hotel to get my hair done(I had to take valium) and lots of rescue remedy and rescue remedy pasteels(which i find really good). I concentrated on the bride and that I was doing it for her and just tried to hold myself together.

My point is that i was certain that i was going to die that day and I didnt I am still here. I made it through the car journeys and up the aisle and back to the party and once i let myself get into the swing of it, it was a really nice day. I know its really difficult, but I know that you can do it, and tomorrow night you will be writing on here and telling us all how it went!!!

Caroline

[HeatherMc]

I would try and go hun the resuce remedy tips are a really good idea, sometimes things turn out better than you think


Good Luck

Heather

[ricric]

When you go, you will be fine!!!!!!

I promise:)

[orangeblossom]

Hello!

Well, I made it there... and back! It was a ridiculously anxious time but I took my propranolol before, during and after the wedding and domperidone too which made a HUGE difference.

The tube ride there was not the easiest and then we had to get a bus to the Church (managed to miss our stop and had to walk in the rain(!). The service itself was not very long - 40mins - and we sat at the back. I always feel guilty for making my fiance sit at the back of events, but, actually the good thing was that I got a great photo of the bride walking back down the aisle! So, sometimes something good comes from it :-)

I got through the part of the reception bit - they kept ploughing us with lots of champagne and wine (had a bit more than I probably should have had because I was so nervous!) - but when it came time for the speeches and everyone went quiet, I just began to panic badly. I guess I'd been 'coping' all day and by 6:30pm I'd pretty much had enough.

We were supposed to go back home via the tube but there was just no way I was able to do that, so, thankfully my fiance ordered us a cab... eh, even that was pretty hard. Had to concentrate on breathing and not hyperventilating... horrid. But, made it back.

I'm exhausted today!! Think a day of sitting about and attempting to relax is on the cards...

You guys made such a difference - thank you! I used various tips that you mentioned, and also knowing that you had been through the same, or more challenging situations, made me feel that maybe I could do it too. And I did!

Thank you thank you thank you! You guys are the best!

[titchjd]

what a fantastic thing 2 hear m8 ...and a big big well done 2 you ....x

You got there and back thats fantastic ....ok you had anxiety but you didnt leave early or not go at all u did it ..Yipppppeeeeex:yesyes:

Im sooo anxious about being bridesmaid next month but will think of you and realise I can do it x

well done xx

Titchjd xxxxxxxxxxxx

[kate]

Oh well done, you did so well :D

Hope you are very proud of yourself :yesyes:

Kate

[ricric]

seee:D

[freakedout]

Well done orangeblossom, sounds like you coped really well, with lots of anxiety provoking situations.

Good on ya!

Freaky

[Carolinemargaret]

YEAHHH WELL DONE YOU!

See, knew you could do it!!

Hope you enjoyed your relaxing day, you deserved it!

Caroline x

[Veronica H]

:bighug1: Well done. Great news.

Veronica

[Pickle]

:hugs: WELL DONE :hugs:

Even tho you were so scared and worried, you did it :D you worked your way thro it all and had a good day

YEAH :yesyes:

x

[HeatherMc]

:hugs::hugs:

Well done hun so pleased for you.

Love

Heather

[orangeblossom]

Thank you guys so much! I really can't say *thank you* enough - knowing that you all are so positive and in my corner really helps so much more than I can say... It is so nice to be able to share my success with you all!!

And - titchjd - you will have a fabulous time as a bridesmaid!!!!!!

[kazzie]

NICE ONE ORANGE:yahoo: :yahoo: :yahoo: :yahoo: :yahoo: :yahoo:

Kaz x x x:hugs: