makenzie
20-10-08, 12:26
I thought i would start this thread with a description of what my worries / thoughts have been throughout growing up.
From a young age i have worried about a lot things, but the first thing that sticks in my mind is when i was about 9, i started worrying about a family member dying, for e.g. my younger brother used to be very overweight, this would make me worry that he would have a heart attck and die, this is normal i know, however i would then have this thought in my head, "i wish my brother died of a heart attack," this used to upset me but i couldnt get rid of the thoughts, i would then get them about other family members, e.g mum smoked so i would start having this thought, "i want my mum to die of cancer," this carried on for a few years, on and of and would bother me a lot.
As i got a bit older around 13, i started going out with a girl from school, and one day me and a group of friends were with her and her mates, and she started to talk about her younger brother, when all of a sudden out of the blue, i had this awful thought in my head of a sexual nature, that i did not want or enjoy at all. It was like someone was in control of my mind and i couldnt stop the thoughts coming. I remember this played on my mind for days, and then i started getting them when i wasnt even with the girl, and they would upset me and get me really down.
Another situation occured when a family friend brought her new born baby in a pram to show my mum, i walked in the room fine, but then i saw the baby and i started having images and thoughts that were really awful and strong and hard to get rid of, i had to leave the room, and i worried about the thoughts all the time. I would say to myself, i am only like 13 / 14 i cant be a peodophile, so why am i having these types of thoughts. These types of thoughts came and went throughout my highschool years, sometimes worse than others, but somehow back then i got over them easier.
Anyway i am 21 now and i have been with my girlfriend since i was 15, anf for a few years i didnt really have these thoughts for a couple of years, until i left college and was about to start uni. I was working in a shop, when one day i started to worry about cheating on my girlfriend, if a girl came into the shop, and i had to serve her, i would get really anxious, and when she would leave i would have this feeling of guilt and feel as though i had just kissed the girl behind my girlfriends back. This got so extreme that after i had served a female customer, i would have to check the cctv cameras, to reasure myself i had not. This was getting worse as i did a lot of hours in the shop during that summer, and it started happening not only with female customers but also if any children entered the shop, i would sometimes get horrible thoughts/ images that were really really upsetting, this would make me check cameras sometimes 5-10 times a day. I did not tell my girlfriend or family memebrs about these thoughts, as i thought they would think i was a weirdo, and they just got worse.
I am now in my third year of uni, and the summer leading up to it i have to say was the lowest point i have ever been in my life. I had the girlfriend worries along with the children worries constantly everyday through the summer, everytime i woke up i would worry and obsess about an incident were i had a thought or image. Then it got really weird, where i didnt even know what was going on. I was driving one day when i saw a child on the street, immediately i got anxious and anticipated a thought / image, this made me fidget, then all of a sudden i noticed that there was wet in my boxer shorts, this sent my anxiety through the roof. Even though i clearly new that the wet in my boxer shorts was from the fact that i had been for a wee just befor i got in my car, i started to convince myself that it had someting to do with that kid, i was that worried from this incident that when i returned home from the journey i went back to the toilet to see if i could remember having a wee.
Soon enough my girlfriend started to notice someting was wrong, and i told her everything, she does psycology in uni and immediately said it was due to anxiety, and persuaded me to go to the doctors. The doctor then reffered me to a mental health profesional, and she said it was ocd. I still am goiong through a rough time and have not got rid of these irrational and awful thoughts but i am getting help, please reply if you want, or if you can relate and want to talk.thanks mak.
From a young age i have worried about a lot things, but the first thing that sticks in my mind is when i was about 9, i started worrying about a family member dying, for e.g. my younger brother used to be very overweight, this would make me worry that he would have a heart attck and die, this is normal i know, however i would then have this thought in my head, "i wish my brother died of a heart attack," this used to upset me but i couldnt get rid of the thoughts, i would then get them about other family members, e.g mum smoked so i would start having this thought, "i want my mum to die of cancer," this carried on for a few years, on and of and would bother me a lot.
As i got a bit older around 13, i started going out with a girl from school, and one day me and a group of friends were with her and her mates, and she started to talk about her younger brother, when all of a sudden out of the blue, i had this awful thought in my head of a sexual nature, that i did not want or enjoy at all. It was like someone was in control of my mind and i couldnt stop the thoughts coming. I remember this played on my mind for days, and then i started getting them when i wasnt even with the girl, and they would upset me and get me really down.
Another situation occured when a family friend brought her new born baby in a pram to show my mum, i walked in the room fine, but then i saw the baby and i started having images and thoughts that were really awful and strong and hard to get rid of, i had to leave the room, and i worried about the thoughts all the time. I would say to myself, i am only like 13 / 14 i cant be a peodophile, so why am i having these types of thoughts. These types of thoughts came and went throughout my highschool years, sometimes worse than others, but somehow back then i got over them easier.
Anyway i am 21 now and i have been with my girlfriend since i was 15, anf for a few years i didnt really have these thoughts for a couple of years, until i left college and was about to start uni. I was working in a shop, when one day i started to worry about cheating on my girlfriend, if a girl came into the shop, and i had to serve her, i would get really anxious, and when she would leave i would have this feeling of guilt and feel as though i had just kissed the girl behind my girlfriends back. This got so extreme that after i had served a female customer, i would have to check the cctv cameras, to reasure myself i had not. This was getting worse as i did a lot of hours in the shop during that summer, and it started happening not only with female customers but also if any children entered the shop, i would sometimes get horrible thoughts/ images that were really really upsetting, this would make me check cameras sometimes 5-10 times a day. I did not tell my girlfriend or family memebrs about these thoughts, as i thought they would think i was a weirdo, and they just got worse.
I am now in my third year of uni, and the summer leading up to it i have to say was the lowest point i have ever been in my life. I had the girlfriend worries along with the children worries constantly everyday through the summer, everytime i woke up i would worry and obsess about an incident were i had a thought or image. Then it got really weird, where i didnt even know what was going on. I was driving one day when i saw a child on the street, immediately i got anxious and anticipated a thought / image, this made me fidget, then all of a sudden i noticed that there was wet in my boxer shorts, this sent my anxiety through the roof. Even though i clearly new that the wet in my boxer shorts was from the fact that i had been for a wee just befor i got in my car, i started to convince myself that it had someting to do with that kid, i was that worried from this incident that when i returned home from the journey i went back to the toilet to see if i could remember having a wee.
Soon enough my girlfriend started to notice someting was wrong, and i told her everything, she does psycology in uni and immediately said it was due to anxiety, and persuaded me to go to the doctors. The doctor then reffered me to a mental health profesional, and she said it was ocd. I still am goiong through a rough time and have not got rid of these irrational and awful thoughts but i am getting help, please reply if you want, or if you can relate and want to talk.thanks mak.