andie73
25-10-08, 18:37
Hi Guys
Today I was forced out of my safety zone. I can tolerate doing social things now much better than I have ever been able to do. I am comfortable if I take my own car so I know I have an escape route, and that I am in control.
Today I had to face my fears and now several hours on I am still feeling anxious. I had arranged to visit a friend who has been on the sick from work for a year. She is retirement age and is not going to return to work, even though currently she is just on the sick. I have been a few times and have coped well with it.
This time I asked another friend from work if she wanted to go with me. I really get on with this person and really like her company as we have alot in common so I was pleased when she said yes.
I offered to collect her but she insisted on picking me up instead. I was so pleased she was coming to I agreed even though I knew the panic would start. She is quite used to seeing me panic as she has helped me at work before.
I was really anxious before, made worse as I had bad PMT, which always makes me anxious. Anyway after pacing the floor for at least an hour she was at the door. I was soooo anx, I even had a carrier bag in my handbag in case I was sick ( she's just got a new car!!).
Anyway it went ok despite feeling really trapped. We went at 10 and didn't come back till 2, so I suppose I did ok. I just feel like such a freak. I wish I could just be natural with people instead of feeling so uptight when faced with these situations. My face kept flushing red, and I couldn't join in and eat the cakes she had bought as I felt so sick. I could even manage a whole cup of tea.
I feel that they must have noticed as I felt so twitchy and found it hard to sit still or concentrate on the conversation. My husband said I will never get used to doing things like this if I don't try and perservere with it. And I know he's right. I just worry that my friend will not want to go anywhere with me in the car again, and that she may see me as a freak. I just wish it would go away, I'm sick of being ruled by these feelings.
Today I was forced out of my safety zone. I can tolerate doing social things now much better than I have ever been able to do. I am comfortable if I take my own car so I know I have an escape route, and that I am in control.
Today I had to face my fears and now several hours on I am still feeling anxious. I had arranged to visit a friend who has been on the sick from work for a year. She is retirement age and is not going to return to work, even though currently she is just on the sick. I have been a few times and have coped well with it.
This time I asked another friend from work if she wanted to go with me. I really get on with this person and really like her company as we have alot in common so I was pleased when she said yes.
I offered to collect her but she insisted on picking me up instead. I was so pleased she was coming to I agreed even though I knew the panic would start. She is quite used to seeing me panic as she has helped me at work before.
I was really anxious before, made worse as I had bad PMT, which always makes me anxious. Anyway after pacing the floor for at least an hour she was at the door. I was soooo anx, I even had a carrier bag in my handbag in case I was sick ( she's just got a new car!!).
Anyway it went ok despite feeling really trapped. We went at 10 and didn't come back till 2, so I suppose I did ok. I just feel like such a freak. I wish I could just be natural with people instead of feeling so uptight when faced with these situations. My face kept flushing red, and I couldn't join in and eat the cakes she had bought as I felt so sick. I could even manage a whole cup of tea.
I feel that they must have noticed as I felt so twitchy and found it hard to sit still or concentrate on the conversation. My husband said I will never get used to doing things like this if I don't try and perservere with it. And I know he's right. I just worry that my friend will not want to go anywhere with me in the car again, and that she may see me as a freak. I just wish it would go away, I'm sick of being ruled by these feelings.