kate H
03-11-08, 14:05
I seem to , as i get older, have real problems with trust, jealousy and security whilst in a relationship and i wonder if it is connected to my anxiety?
Ive never trusted men, whether it has something to do with the fact that my Dad had an affair behind my Mums back whilst they were married and is still with that women now over 20 years on after leaving us when i was 3 (we are still in contact and i still see my Dad)but i never completely let my guard down in relationships.
As a result i find myself over obsessing in and doubting the person i am with, convinced they are having an affair etc, i have to admit i have not always been perfect in the past and know how easy it can be which doesnt help. I am not in the easiest of relationships, my partner has just started divorce proceedings and he has two young children (3 and 5) i find myself checking his phone on a regular basis and freaking out at anything i find, this weekend i found loads of texts from her saying how much she loved and missed him and wanted to start again and she was sorry blah blah blah, he says he has saved them to assist with the divorce should he need them.
I wondered if anyone had any advice as to what i can do to remedy my trust and insecurity issues, do i need to talk to someone? Feel a little odd going to the doctors to see if they can help me.
Sorry if this seems a very strange post but you guys are all so helpful and supportive and you never judge anyone i was hoping u may be able to help?
Thanks in advance
K
Ive never trusted men, whether it has something to do with the fact that my Dad had an affair behind my Mums back whilst they were married and is still with that women now over 20 years on after leaving us when i was 3 (we are still in contact and i still see my Dad)but i never completely let my guard down in relationships.
As a result i find myself over obsessing in and doubting the person i am with, convinced they are having an affair etc, i have to admit i have not always been perfect in the past and know how easy it can be which doesnt help. I am not in the easiest of relationships, my partner has just started divorce proceedings and he has two young children (3 and 5) i find myself checking his phone on a regular basis and freaking out at anything i find, this weekend i found loads of texts from her saying how much she loved and missed him and wanted to start again and she was sorry blah blah blah, he says he has saved them to assist with the divorce should he need them.
I wondered if anyone had any advice as to what i can do to remedy my trust and insecurity issues, do i need to talk to someone? Feel a little odd going to the doctors to see if they can help me.
Sorry if this seems a very strange post but you guys are all so helpful and supportive and you never judge anyone i was hoping u may be able to help?
Thanks in advance
K