venoms
19-11-08, 22:25
Hello All,
I can be very shy at times, and hate being in crowded places like pubs surrounded by lots of people, especially when I don't know the people very well. So when my newish boyfriend asked me to go to his mates' b'day party I was quite stressed and reluctant, particularly as it was a dressy affair (I feel even less comfortable in a dress & this just added to the stress).
I didn't want to upset my boyfriend and didn't want it to look bad by not going so I eventually agreed. Once there I just froze up. I didn't know anyone other than a couple of my boyfriend's mates who I had met before, everyone was drinking (I prefer not to drink), and everyone was dancing - which I also never do as I feel too shy & awkward.
I ended up calling a friend to come & rescue me & take me back to my car. My boyfriend said it's fine & that he was so glad I came & was really grateful that I did, knowing how hard it was for me to be there. But now I'm worried his friends will think that we're not at at all suited (he's always out drinking, being sociable - the total opposite to me), and also I have my work's Christmas party next month which I have already paid to go to & am now absolutely dreading as it's going to be exactly the same - everyon dancing & drinking except for me. I really don't know what to do & just wish I could be more confident & let my hair down.
I can be very shy at times, and hate being in crowded places like pubs surrounded by lots of people, especially when I don't know the people very well. So when my newish boyfriend asked me to go to his mates' b'day party I was quite stressed and reluctant, particularly as it was a dressy affair (I feel even less comfortable in a dress & this just added to the stress).
I didn't want to upset my boyfriend and didn't want it to look bad by not going so I eventually agreed. Once there I just froze up. I didn't know anyone other than a couple of my boyfriend's mates who I had met before, everyone was drinking (I prefer not to drink), and everyone was dancing - which I also never do as I feel too shy & awkward.
I ended up calling a friend to come & rescue me & take me back to my car. My boyfriend said it's fine & that he was so glad I came & was really grateful that I did, knowing how hard it was for me to be there. But now I'm worried his friends will think that we're not at at all suited (he's always out drinking, being sociable - the total opposite to me), and also I have my work's Christmas party next month which I have already paid to go to & am now absolutely dreading as it's going to be exactly the same - everyon dancing & drinking except for me. I really don't know what to do & just wish I could be more confident & let my hair down.