joyce1980
26-11-08, 10:42
My brother Passed away a year ago this Friday and since that day, my parents have been drinking at least a bottle of red wine each a night.
My brother died from an epileptic fit (he was diagnosed 2 years before, since before then we were told he had behavior problems as the fits he was experiencing were internal and came out as aggression they misdiagnosed him as add)
My brother always needed support even at 27yrs, he had a few fits at 4am on my mum and they were quick, she kept the room clear and let him finish the fits, he was yelling loudly (it upset my mum) so my mum went out of the room and waited, this happened a few times and the fits were short, when the last one happened she checked on him and he looked asleep.. he was not. mum came back in 20mins later to double check and she knew,,,, ever since then she has blamed herself for letting him pass away. this has been very hard for me as i am the only child left and I know my mum has always had mental problems but this sent her over the edge.
The Dr/coroner told her he dies of sudep and there was nothing anyone could have done anyway, even if she called the ambulance the chances that they would come would be slim as you let them fit and then they rest... 1 in 1000 dies of this fit a year and not many people know about it.
She thinks that it's her fault, but the fir happens in another part of the brain and shuts the signal the the internal organs , no one knows how to stop this,,, sometimes it just happens.
Now a year on my parents are drinking 3 scotches and wine every night, they have full time jobs and hold them they take care of the animals and I am another country away.. I am coming home with my husband to give them company as I love them and want them to get better.
WHAT do I do about the drinking, I don't want them to die... I have lost my only brother... I am hoping that us being with them will distract them from the drinking as i think its because the are lonely, my brother was always there.......
My husband gets annoyed and tells them to stop but they are adults you can't do that... I'm hoping there is another method or is this just grief???? and after a few years it will get better.
They are stubborn and say they are sad, my dad knows they drink too much and had admitted it he thinks that us being there will help as they are just alone at night..... this is the first time my dad had admitted the problem ... my mum wont
Please can anyone advise me, I am scared to lose my parents
I'm 26 and need advice,
Thanks
My brother died from an epileptic fit (he was diagnosed 2 years before, since before then we were told he had behavior problems as the fits he was experiencing were internal and came out as aggression they misdiagnosed him as add)
My brother always needed support even at 27yrs, he had a few fits at 4am on my mum and they were quick, she kept the room clear and let him finish the fits, he was yelling loudly (it upset my mum) so my mum went out of the room and waited, this happened a few times and the fits were short, when the last one happened she checked on him and he looked asleep.. he was not. mum came back in 20mins later to double check and she knew,,,, ever since then she has blamed herself for letting him pass away. this has been very hard for me as i am the only child left and I know my mum has always had mental problems but this sent her over the edge.
The Dr/coroner told her he dies of sudep and there was nothing anyone could have done anyway, even if she called the ambulance the chances that they would come would be slim as you let them fit and then they rest... 1 in 1000 dies of this fit a year and not many people know about it.
She thinks that it's her fault, but the fir happens in another part of the brain and shuts the signal the the internal organs , no one knows how to stop this,,, sometimes it just happens.
Now a year on my parents are drinking 3 scotches and wine every night, they have full time jobs and hold them they take care of the animals and I am another country away.. I am coming home with my husband to give them company as I love them and want them to get better.
WHAT do I do about the drinking, I don't want them to die... I have lost my only brother... I am hoping that us being with them will distract them from the drinking as i think its because the are lonely, my brother was always there.......
My husband gets annoyed and tells them to stop but they are adults you can't do that... I'm hoping there is another method or is this just grief???? and after a few years it will get better.
They are stubborn and say they are sad, my dad knows they drink too much and had admitted it he thinks that us being there will help as they are just alone at night..... this is the first time my dad had admitted the problem ... my mum wont
Please can anyone advise me, I am scared to lose my parents
I'm 26 and need advice,
Thanks