Sandy12
12-01-09, 13:13
hi everyone
have just joined here, the website was recommended by a friend. ive had moderate health anxiety throughout my life - am 25 now - but since becoming pregnant its become unbearable. my baby is due in two weeks and i need to get my head sorted, im so scared i wont be able to look after him/her properly because of my anxiety.
ive always been so scraed of blood diseases - hiv and hepatitis b etc but as you are tested for those in pregnancy i could put that behind me. but i made a big mistake of looking up herpes onthe internet and what i found out about it has really terrified me. i have been with my hubby for 8 years and only had one partner before him - both of them had very limited sexual experience. but the proper herpes websites say that apparently 25% of sexually active people have genital herpes - its just that most people have no symptoms. i had always believed that as i had never had symptoms of that in such a long time then i obviously didnt have it, but now after reading about it i am absolutely convinced that i have the virus and its laying there dormant inside just waiting to come out, and im so scared that it will get passed on to my baby. i think about it all the time :( i cant believe that its that common and that many people have it, its so scary.
the thing is i know that although its not a very nice thing to have, its not life or death and most of the time it would have no effect on you other than how you felt in your head. there are much worse things to have than that like cancer, i cant understand why it has upset me so much finding out that information about herpes but it really really has and the facts about it keep swimming around in my head.
the other thing is that ive spoke to numerous health professionals about herpes since reading it - a couple of gps, the doctor and nurses at a gum clinic, the gynaecologist, the midwives - they have all said that i would have symptoms by now if i had caught it and none of them have said anything about it being dormant, and being so widespread. is it possible that they could all be so wrong? surely if herpes was so widespread then the professionals would know about it? i want to believe them but the proper herpes websites would surely know better?
please help with any advice :( i want to try and get over this worry before my baby comes :( thankyou for any help
have just joined here, the website was recommended by a friend. ive had moderate health anxiety throughout my life - am 25 now - but since becoming pregnant its become unbearable. my baby is due in two weeks and i need to get my head sorted, im so scared i wont be able to look after him/her properly because of my anxiety.
ive always been so scraed of blood diseases - hiv and hepatitis b etc but as you are tested for those in pregnancy i could put that behind me. but i made a big mistake of looking up herpes onthe internet and what i found out about it has really terrified me. i have been with my hubby for 8 years and only had one partner before him - both of them had very limited sexual experience. but the proper herpes websites say that apparently 25% of sexually active people have genital herpes - its just that most people have no symptoms. i had always believed that as i had never had symptoms of that in such a long time then i obviously didnt have it, but now after reading about it i am absolutely convinced that i have the virus and its laying there dormant inside just waiting to come out, and im so scared that it will get passed on to my baby. i think about it all the time :( i cant believe that its that common and that many people have it, its so scary.
the thing is i know that although its not a very nice thing to have, its not life or death and most of the time it would have no effect on you other than how you felt in your head. there are much worse things to have than that like cancer, i cant understand why it has upset me so much finding out that information about herpes but it really really has and the facts about it keep swimming around in my head.
the other thing is that ive spoke to numerous health professionals about herpes since reading it - a couple of gps, the doctor and nurses at a gum clinic, the gynaecologist, the midwives - they have all said that i would have symptoms by now if i had caught it and none of them have said anything about it being dormant, and being so widespread. is it possible that they could all be so wrong? surely if herpes was so widespread then the professionals would know about it? i want to believe them but the proper herpes websites would surely know better?
please help with any advice :( i want to try and get over this worry before my baby comes :( thankyou for any help