cheetah66
25-01-09, 18:26
Hi,
My names James and I'm seeking help on behalf of my mother who has been troubled by ' anxiety' now for 4 months since the death of my father.
She has always been a 'worrier' yet a very generous caring person, the 'rock' of the family but this illness has changed her so much. She has accepted my fathers death, but after many years of caring for him, in his declining health, she is at a loss to put in time
She has been on medication since last September and has seen a specialist several times but feels she is steadily getting worse and that she is losing her mind and especially her memory and that will have to be committed to hospital permanently.
She lives alone now, although there is family close at hand. She needs company but does not want to impose by visiting too much.Mornings are especially difficult - she dreads waking up - I have seen the tension, panic, tightness from when she wakes and this does not lift till ~dinnertime. Rest of the day is easier but she is frustrated by lack of energy, willpower and decision.
In short,Life for her is miserable (and agonising to watch), the illness is wearing her down physically and symptoms in the morning getting worse. Idon't feel the specialist has been helpful - I know he is right to say this is something Mum must fight but the most frustrating aspect, 5 months on is that we cannot point to signs of progress. She is becoming more withdrawn, no longer enjoys reading, cooking etc and the self confidence is falling fast.
I feel the drugs may be partly making her 'worse' but she does not feel able to reduce them in any way.
Although I try to encouraging her. I feel she is heading downhill. Both herself and the family need some 'milestones' to aim for and some idea of timescale that this will take before she 'turns a corner'
... would be good to hear from someone else who has been through this and came out the other side...:shrug:
My names James and I'm seeking help on behalf of my mother who has been troubled by ' anxiety' now for 4 months since the death of my father.
She has always been a 'worrier' yet a very generous caring person, the 'rock' of the family but this illness has changed her so much. She has accepted my fathers death, but after many years of caring for him, in his declining health, she is at a loss to put in time
She has been on medication since last September and has seen a specialist several times but feels she is steadily getting worse and that she is losing her mind and especially her memory and that will have to be committed to hospital permanently.
She lives alone now, although there is family close at hand. She needs company but does not want to impose by visiting too much.Mornings are especially difficult - she dreads waking up - I have seen the tension, panic, tightness from when she wakes and this does not lift till ~dinnertime. Rest of the day is easier but she is frustrated by lack of energy, willpower and decision.
In short,Life for her is miserable (and agonising to watch), the illness is wearing her down physically and symptoms in the morning getting worse. Idon't feel the specialist has been helpful - I know he is right to say this is something Mum must fight but the most frustrating aspect, 5 months on is that we cannot point to signs of progress. She is becoming more withdrawn, no longer enjoys reading, cooking etc and the self confidence is falling fast.
I feel the drugs may be partly making her 'worse' but she does not feel able to reduce them in any way.
Although I try to encouraging her. I feel she is heading downhill. Both herself and the family need some 'milestones' to aim for and some idea of timescale that this will take before she 'turns a corner'
... would be good to hear from someone else who has been through this and came out the other side...:shrug: