Peru83
20-07-05, 17:20
I'm posting this as I suffered this when I was in my early teens and managed to over come it, even though I think it's trying to creep it's way back in again[Sigh...]. I won't let it though[Yeah!],lol.
Anyways, when I was young I was badly bullied not physically just verbally but it hurt all the same. I had a big nose and people used to call me Gonzo, Pinnoccio, ugly ect. It got to the point where I would walk with my hair over my face whilst looking at my feet so that no one could see my hidiouse face. I would cry all the time about how horrible I was and found it more and more difficult to go out I became very shy and lost ALL confidence. My mum then took me to the doctors to see about an operation on my nose and they agreed but were hesitent to do it as I was only 12 but my mum and I instisted. I suppose I thought that if I had it done then I would be someone else, I would be beautiful, people would want to be my friend. Didn't happen like that though, my nose was smaller that was it. I was still regular old Claire. This couldn't of depressed me more. I sparked alot of interest in school but not in the way that I wanted, I felt like a lab animal being poked at. I even had one of my class mates come up to me and ask 'Is your nose really made of plastic? Does this mean that you can't sit out in the sun anymore?', at that point I realised that I had made a big mistake.
I then turned to drugs, first it was cannabis then ecstacy. I became very addicted to ecstacy as it gave me great confidence and made me feel good. I got so bad that I would be phoning dealers till 2am just trying to get my hands on them (I was only 16!!). I had become a very sad sight indeed, I was having to take more and more ecstacy to try and get the same high, I'd become soo under weight (I was under 7 stone). Eventually I stopped the drugs due to having a bad experiance on the ecstacy, I thought that I was going to die. So I then turned to drink, I just needed something to make me feel other than who I was. I felt horrible with out the help of something intoxicating to give me that false sense of confidence, I had become addicted.
At 17 (just before I turned 18) I found out that I was pregnant, I cried as I just though oh my god what kind of mother am I going to make! But my partner and I talked about it and I decided to keep my baby. My doctor told me that I desperatly needed to start eating healthier and had to give up the obvious so I did, just like that. I had another reason other than myself to do it for, my unborn child:). When I was pregnant there were lots of occations I had to go out on my own and because I had ditched the bad crowd I was hanging around with I didn't even have a friend to ask to go with me so I just had to.
I started by breaking all of my old habbits, I stopped looking at my feet as I walked I held my head high and made eye contact with people as I passed, sometimes even a friendly smile (probably thought I was a nutter:D). I stopped putting my hair over my face and I started taking my walkman everywhere with me. My partner bought me a walkman for my 18th so I made up a tape of all my favourite music (stereophonics always make me feel good) and listned to that, especially sitting on the bus I always found that the hardest.
I still have moments of feeling uneasy and nervous outside, especially with how I have been feeling lately but I am still walking with my head held high[8D].
I do hope that my long winded blabbering helps someone. If I have just put you to sleep they yay at least I helped someone relax[:o)],lol.
Take Carexx
Claire
"Of all the things I've lost I miss my mind the most!"
Anyways, when I was young I was badly bullied not physically just verbally but it hurt all the same. I had a big nose and people used to call me Gonzo, Pinnoccio, ugly ect. It got to the point where I would walk with my hair over my face whilst looking at my feet so that no one could see my hidiouse face. I would cry all the time about how horrible I was and found it more and more difficult to go out I became very shy and lost ALL confidence. My mum then took me to the doctors to see about an operation on my nose and they agreed but were hesitent to do it as I was only 12 but my mum and I instisted. I suppose I thought that if I had it done then I would be someone else, I would be beautiful, people would want to be my friend. Didn't happen like that though, my nose was smaller that was it. I was still regular old Claire. This couldn't of depressed me more. I sparked alot of interest in school but not in the way that I wanted, I felt like a lab animal being poked at. I even had one of my class mates come up to me and ask 'Is your nose really made of plastic? Does this mean that you can't sit out in the sun anymore?', at that point I realised that I had made a big mistake.
I then turned to drugs, first it was cannabis then ecstacy. I became very addicted to ecstacy as it gave me great confidence and made me feel good. I got so bad that I would be phoning dealers till 2am just trying to get my hands on them (I was only 16!!). I had become a very sad sight indeed, I was having to take more and more ecstacy to try and get the same high, I'd become soo under weight (I was under 7 stone). Eventually I stopped the drugs due to having a bad experiance on the ecstacy, I thought that I was going to die. So I then turned to drink, I just needed something to make me feel other than who I was. I felt horrible with out the help of something intoxicating to give me that false sense of confidence, I had become addicted.
At 17 (just before I turned 18) I found out that I was pregnant, I cried as I just though oh my god what kind of mother am I going to make! But my partner and I talked about it and I decided to keep my baby. My doctor told me that I desperatly needed to start eating healthier and had to give up the obvious so I did, just like that. I had another reason other than myself to do it for, my unborn child:). When I was pregnant there were lots of occations I had to go out on my own and because I had ditched the bad crowd I was hanging around with I didn't even have a friend to ask to go with me so I just had to.
I started by breaking all of my old habbits, I stopped looking at my feet as I walked I held my head high and made eye contact with people as I passed, sometimes even a friendly smile (probably thought I was a nutter:D). I stopped putting my hair over my face and I started taking my walkman everywhere with me. My partner bought me a walkman for my 18th so I made up a tape of all my favourite music (stereophonics always make me feel good) and listned to that, especially sitting on the bus I always found that the hardest.
I still have moments of feeling uneasy and nervous outside, especially with how I have been feeling lately but I am still walking with my head held high[8D].
I do hope that my long winded blabbering helps someone. If I have just put you to sleep they yay at least I helped someone relax[:o)],lol.
Take Carexx
Claire
"Of all the things I've lost I miss my mind the most!"