The million dollar question

[Bill]

Where can I find a cure?:shrug:

What if I said to you, you don't need to climb mountains or search the deepest valleys. That you don't need to pay all you've earned or run away to a monastery. You don't need to seek out the highest paid specialists or even pay for a package over the Net.

What if I said to you, the cure is within You? Would you believe me?:shrug:

If not, then answer me this. Why is it I used to suffer from OCD, health and general anxiety, full panic attacks and agoraphobia etc which led me to self harm and take od's because I'd lost hope of any future without anxiety...........and yet now I cope perfectly ok through gaining knowledge and learning techniques together with willpower and determination to overcome my fears, without paying anyone for any treatments?

If you can't answer my question then I'll answer yours! If I can learn, so can YOU and it need not cost you a penny because all you need is to turn the free key within your own mind to unlock your fears to gain freedom!!!:hugs:

I know you still don't believe me but I Know it's True because I've been there but for years now I've coped fine!:hugs: All you need is to build confidence, gain self belief and change the way you think because it's your thoughts that create all your anxieties. The cure is within You and it's Free!:hugs:

[djvtech]

I never used to have anxiety. then one day I had a panic attack and was anxious from then on. I don't want to know how to JUST cope, I want to know how to GET RID OF IT 100% AND BE LIKE I USED TO BE BEFORE I EVER HAD IT.

I think hypnosis is the answer for me.

[Mully]

I know you still don't believe me but I Know it's True because I've been there but for years now I've coped fine!:hugs: All you need is to build confidence, gain self belief and change the way you think because it's your thoughts that create all your anxieties. The cure is within You and it's Free!:hugs:


I totally agree with you, however, it requires willpower and the inner strength to not give up when it seems one step forward and two steps back. It takes courage, and perseverance and a postivie attitude which for most sufferes is hard to mantain. Especially those of us that suffer with depression also. It is a battle that I believe everyone can win. ( I have to believe this )

Learning to change what is buried deep within our subconscious takes time, and one has to understand this. The fact that in one moment, one action or some catalystic event can change our lives forever. And to undo this change takes endurance and detemination, I feel most of us here have already begun this journey, and for some it may only take months, for others like myself, it takes longer. I personally have got to a stage in my recovery where I'm pretty much ' say 80%' there... I've done this by myself, with no help..other than meds. Not everyone can do this for themselves and will need guidance and support, sometimes i think if I had had this earlier, things would be different now, who knows..

I still think that guides like Claire Weeks, Lindon method, CBT courses etc etc..are great!.. and they give tools and hope to sufferers. but at the end of the day.. no matter what method you use, it has to come from within yourself. Only you can change you.

:)

[CharlesLinden]

I 100% agree with you too Bill, but you must understand, some people just don't have the means, understanding, support or strength to go it alone. If you saw the desperation that some of my clients come to us with, you would understand that you are an enormous exception to the norm. BUT, you are right... total anxiety elimination is possible alone... you and I are testament to this. My clients don't buy a 'magic pill', they are givena roadmap and our staff act as guides during the recovery journey. Take care. Charles

[PUGLETMUM]

:hugs: hey bill/all - you can believe the answer just lies within yourself, charles can believe that his roadmap is the way through and djvtech can believe his way through (sorry if you are a her)is hypnosis - personally i put my money(cost of books and cds only) on mindfullness - i am also proof that my method of choice works for me - i have had a miscarriage a nearly broken realtionship a breakdown in so called supportive relationship, i have a crap job and am 5k in debt with potential like everyone for redundancy - but im fine! i have no depression - and i have yesterday driven on the motorway for the first time in my 8 year driving career:yesyes: so again i think its horses for courses really as other threads have discovered lately:winks:

[Nechtan]

I too believe the ultimate answer lies within but its more complicated than that. Most people who have an anxiety problem start in a confused hopeless state lacking information which is an impossible basis to recover from. For example I went to the GP over a long period with what I thought were exhaustion and respitory problems. I got blood tests, inhalers, an ecg and was offered medication that I didn't take. No answer though to why I was feeling the way I was. I even had a diabetes test as the symptoms seemed to fit which proved negative- I done this off my own back as it was never suggested by the GP. Anxiety was never suggested by the GP.

It took one almighty panic attack out of the blue which truly shattered my world for the GP to finally come to the conclusion that my symptoms were anxiety related. And what was I given. A label which said 'anxiety sufferer' with no explanation of what that entailed. Then left to stew for over 3 months till a CPN finally came. Misdiagnosis is for me one of the biggest problems. I could have stopped anxiety in its tracks had I known what it was and been given the information I now have. Before that panic attack I was still living my normal life. But that panic attack and the lack of help after meant that by the time the CPN came out to see me I was housebound annd had problems in people's company. It should never have got to that stage.

Misdiagnosis and lack of infortmation pathe the way to confusion. Lack of help thereafter leads to lack of hope. False promises of a cure leads to confusion. The cocktail leads to a a perceived impossibile positition that you will ever be well again. The frustating thing is that this position is avoidable. Most people with anxiety problems should never be allowed to deteriorate to a state where they find it impossible to get out of. It can and should be nipped in the bud alot earlier.

I firmly believe I will find a way out of this. What I need to do that is find the tool that works best for me. I don't think there is one tool for all but that there is a tool, or set of tools, for everyone. The tool is something that taps into our inner strength and helps us cope with the symptoms in order to get better. And you cannot move forward without that tool. That is why I get frustrated when people are told to go and endure the panic and by doing so over and over they will get better. That won't work if you cannot cope- if you do not have your tool. All that does is feed the habit and set it more in stone than it was previously.

Forums like this provide hope and are crucial for people in a state where they think there is no hope. The 'success stories' forum for example is a great place. When you think this is how it is always going to be, and we have all felt it at some point, it is heartening to read of other people coming through their anxiety problems. I never tire of reading of success and each story builds my belief that I can do it too.

All the best

Nechtan