So depressed

[Barb]

Hi Everyone I really need some support today please.I feel so depressed and scared and totally drained from the constant struggle of this life of mine. I get occasional good days, but at the moment I am lucky if I get one or two a week, friday being the last good one, when I thought now I will have a good weekend with the family but no saturday chronic tiredness so bad could only lay about all day, still thought tomorrow after good nights sleep will feel better. N ot too bad at first although felt extremely agitated and irrtable. Decided to go out with my daughter and grandaughter panic hit as soon as I got in the car only got round the block in extreme terror and had to come home in floods of tears. Got through the day ( as you do ) only to have a bad panic attack at bedtime more terror.
So today I am feeling extremely depressed dont want to do a thing and just cant see how I will ever get any better.
Keep thinking I must have something really bad wrong with me and thats why I,m not getting better cant go to docs as I am phobic of them as well and have been for years.
I do have a bad head cold which I suppose isnt helping how I feel, but just dont know what to do any more have even took an extra 2mgs of diazapem which I hate doing.
Would be really grateful for any replies to give me a little lift.

Luv Barb xxxxxxx

[kirgray]

Hi Barb

Im so sorry to hear your weekend has been bad, I understand how you feel mine has been awful aswell-lots of crying, anxious thoughts and breathless symptoms-have felt so exhausted like yourself and no get up and go at the moment-felt that bad have taken the day off work, am going to have a ME day, why dont you aswell-i am goin to relax, do breathing exercises and TRY and place good thoughts in my head im on my own all day so am going to make the most of it, just remember this is a BLIP thats all and most of the people in this world with whatever problems they have experience good and bad days after all we are only humans, you will feel exhausted as you have so many emotions swimming around and this will drain you, relax as much as possible or try and occupy your mind with something, ive started making handmade cards and Im even making some money out of it, do a crossword anything, believe me Barb the future scares me to death aswell you are not alone in how you feel, thinking of you pm me today if you want a chat XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXHUGXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX

[pips]

Hi Barb,

So sorry you are feeling so low hun. Heres a BIG hug to cheer you up.

Having a bad cold does make things seem lot worse than they are. I have one at the moment and it does make you feel low I know hun. So that is effecting the way you are feeling.

At least you tried to go out and that's the main thing small steps huh.

Try to Focus on the good days. That's what I do especially when i'm feeling low. I try to think POSITIVE and think ok i may be feeling crap at the mo but i wil get out of it and I will start to feel brighter again. By focussing and remembering the better hours/day/ days we have had it does help. Even if you only have one good day a week it's better then having 7 bad days huh!

I hope you feel better soon. Try to stay as Strong and Positive as you can. If you really feel something is wrong maybe a health check up might reassure you. If you can do it.

Take Care,

Love PIP'S X X

[Barb]

Thanks Kingray and Pips, hugs very welcome just what I needed. I am always being told I am so negative in my thinking although I do try to change it around. Have my 2nd mentoring session tomorrow with NO PANIC hopefully that will help.

Luv Barb xxxx

[Jenny]

Hi Barb
Sorry to hear that you have had a bad week-end. Have you been able to go out in the garden at all? Hope you are feeling much better soon.
The group will be there for you on Tuesday, and we can have a good chat about things. Until then CHIN UP !!!! Speak to you soon.

Best wishes.
Jen xx

J. Farmer

[Piglet]

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Perhaps you could glance into the future and see yourself waving back at you, smiling one of your BIGGEST smiles and assuring you that you will get there. You don’t have to know how for now, but just KNOW that is will be possible somehow. After all you’ve just seen it. So it’s now just a question of following the pathway that that future you has already taken. And that pathway can start with one tiny step. What tiny step could you take today Barb to set you on that pathway to that future you?

Take care...
Nigel


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Aww Nigel that's lovely - I'm going to try that!

Hi Barb,

We've all had really bad colds over the last few weeks actually and I felt so tired a couple of nights that I thought I was going to faint. Trouble is I saw that as something anxiety ridden rather what it was, fighting off a virus - I was even in bed at 9pm on two nights. Now the colds all gone I realise that I was as usual over dramatic about it all.

However do feel little bit panicky this week - so not at my total best either mate.

Love Pig:D

[carlin]

Hi Barb,
As you know, i have been feeling a bit rough too lately, i think you do really well, so you have had a rough week-end, you still managed. it's just that we would like to be able to enjoy as well as 'just cope' my suggestion to you and myself is, don't plan anything too far in advance, see how your body feels that day, if you feel like going for it, do so, if not see what happens the next day.If you are tired, rest. if you have a burst of energy do what you can..no major plans, one step at a time...i am beginnning to find if i don't manage to get out one day, people will say, oh dear you should try to make an effort, but sometimes i don't want to go out, people seem to notice things and make me feel guilty, so i want to stay home and do things indoors, so what? you work very hard with your family, take things slowly, don't feel guilty and please keep in touch xxxxxxxxxx

[Barb]

Thanks everyone, what would I do without you all? You really have given me a lift
Nigel that was a brilliant idea tried it right away saw myself happy and smiling ( and much slimmer) LOL!!!
My tiny step was to stop feeling sorry for myself and go and sit in the sun.

Luv Barb xxxxx

[Meg]

Barb and thats was a GREAT step inn the sunshine . Enjoy what is right now ! If you can do that then its a very good thing.

** panic hit as soon as I got in the car only got round the block in extreme terror and had to come home in floods of tears** What wa sthgis all about . What were you thinking about- don't tell us - just try to identify what thoughts patterns happened and were they were rational or not..

Doing the mentoring thing can often dig up stuff without even discussing it - one thought leads to another and soon you're upset. It is good though so stick with it.

If I had 2 good days a week - when I was acute I'd have been thrilled. Just a chink of light would have done me.

Meg
www.anxietymanagementltd.com

Your anxiety is the human representation of the pictures that you paint using your many vivid colours of revolving and reoccurring thoughts.
How big is your gallery ?

[Karen]

Hi Barb

Sorry you're not feeling too good at the moment. I think everyone else has already given you some great suggestions. Focusing on today, rather than worrying how you will be tomorrow or next week is much more helpful. Even take the day an hour at a time if you are feeling low and take small steps at a time.

Getting out into the sun today was a brilliant step - well done. This is the kind of step that can help you get through this a day at a time.

I have been struggling with depression for a while now and I would love to get back to the point where I had a couple of good days a week. Right now every day is the same and I don't seem to be able to life myself out of it. I know I have made progress in the past and try to hold onto the hope that I can again.

Keep going Barb.




Karen



It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere.

[Meg]

Hey Barb,

If its symptoms like dizziness or surges that are bothering you most try some of these previous posts.

Spaciness (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=2696)
Light Headed (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=2951)
dizzyness (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=3062)
Jules31 (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=310)
Light Headed (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=2951)
Very dizzy (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=3743)
help :( (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=3742)


walking funny, head rushes and dizziness (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=3610)
Left arm, left leg problems (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=4295)
walking funny, head rushes and dizziness (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=3610)
Head Rush (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=4301)
Sounds daft I know, but head shivers! Eh?? (http://www.nomorepanic.co.uk/showthread.php?t=3814)


Meg
www.anxietymanagementltd.com

Your anxiety is the human representation of the pictures that you paint using your many vivid colours of revolving and reoccurring thoughts.
How big is your gallery ?