sahara
09-04-09, 17:58
I don't really know where to put this post, I am guessing its anxiety, but whatever it is its not very nice.
In Janurary 2006 somewhat unexpectedly I found I was pregnant. I was 27, just been forced out of a very bad job and nearly had a nervous breakdown but was recovering, but still on citralopam.
Due to being pregnant my Dr took me off them and my world fell apart.
(I have suffered anxiety before on and off for as long as I can remember really. Alcoholic Mum, bullied at school. No friend etc)
I started panicking about my health, HIV cancer, then from there I worried about my unborn baby due to drinking alcohol before I knew she was pregnant (I stopoped when I found out). It was the worst 9 months of my like.
When my beautiful daughter was born on the 16th October 2006 and she was fine and I was fine I thought things can only get better. How wrong. 5 months later I was consumed with OCD. Totally convinced everything was contaminatedand and my daughter was going to get ill. I spent hours and hours cleaning and scrubbing showering and washing my hands. I even started washing my hands in bleach. That is when I realised a needed help.
Started an intensive course to cure my OCD at the end of 2007.
By August last year with alot of battles and set backs I finally started improving and my life was 90% back to normal. My goal of curing my OCD was to try and hopefully get pregnant with a second baby I so desperately want as I feel I have missed out on so much with my daughter due to all my problems and I have always wanted lots of children (although my partner has put his foot down at 2).
After a chat with my Dr he agreed to start weaning me off my anti depressants and when done so I could try for another baby. All was going well.
Then suddenly my Mum got taken ill in the middle of November and died 12 days later of lung cancer.
I went straight back to my full dose of citralopm and of course trying for the baby was put on hold. Bang straight away the health anxiety hit me full force.
I was absolutely gutted about loosing my Mum, and I was also upset at the thought that I would not be able to try for my second child.
Then within the space of the next month, my best friend, my SIL and my OH brothers girlfriend all announced they are pregnant. Along with my nextdoor neighbour, another friend and then another friend.
I feel like somebody is being really cruel to me or playing some sick joke. Don't get e wrong I am pleased for these woman, but here in comes my anxiety.
I am so scared I am going to be left out they all live very close and they are all going to have babies within 3 months of each other. I am already getting left out of things because they meet in the evenings and I can't because I have my daughter and they are all having their first babies.
I feel I don't belong with my friends, when I do see them all they talk about is babies which sort of excludes me from the conversation as I am not pregnant and I don't remember much of my pregnancy due to the distress I was in when I was. I try and change the conversation if I do get to go out, but it soon changes back. I can understand why, but I just feel so left out. I would be liar to admit I wasn't envious over them all being pregnant, its just so hard when you are the only one that isn't
I feel excluded and not part of this exclusive club which I fear will continue when they all have their babies.
My confidence is lacking and I also don't think I can bare to listen to baby talk everytime they meet anyway because it hurts. None of them seem to realise I am still hurting over my Mum and when they were all telling me they were pregnant it was only 2 weeks after my Mum died and I found it hard to share in their excitement. And it also hurts that they are all pregnant when I want to be so badly.
I just don't know what to do, I just don't feel like me and my daughter fit in with them (she is 2 and half)
I have tried mother and toddler groups but my confidence is so low I really struggle. I know I probably being selfish and jealous and overeacting but I don't know what to do.
I suppose I need everyone to tell me to get on with it and be so daft, but it hurts. I just don't feel like I belong with them. So much so I feel sick and really anxious when I do go to meet one of them.
I am sure I am getting some of my grief over Mum muddled in with this, but I jst don't know how to sort it out.
Sorry for my stupid ramblings and I know it probably doesn't make sense it just how its come out.
Sarah
In Janurary 2006 somewhat unexpectedly I found I was pregnant. I was 27, just been forced out of a very bad job and nearly had a nervous breakdown but was recovering, but still on citralopam.
Due to being pregnant my Dr took me off them and my world fell apart.
(I have suffered anxiety before on and off for as long as I can remember really. Alcoholic Mum, bullied at school. No friend etc)
I started panicking about my health, HIV cancer, then from there I worried about my unborn baby due to drinking alcohol before I knew she was pregnant (I stopoped when I found out). It was the worst 9 months of my like.
When my beautiful daughter was born on the 16th October 2006 and she was fine and I was fine I thought things can only get better. How wrong. 5 months later I was consumed with OCD. Totally convinced everything was contaminatedand and my daughter was going to get ill. I spent hours and hours cleaning and scrubbing showering and washing my hands. I even started washing my hands in bleach. That is when I realised a needed help.
Started an intensive course to cure my OCD at the end of 2007.
By August last year with alot of battles and set backs I finally started improving and my life was 90% back to normal. My goal of curing my OCD was to try and hopefully get pregnant with a second baby I so desperately want as I feel I have missed out on so much with my daughter due to all my problems and I have always wanted lots of children (although my partner has put his foot down at 2).
After a chat with my Dr he agreed to start weaning me off my anti depressants and when done so I could try for another baby. All was going well.
Then suddenly my Mum got taken ill in the middle of November and died 12 days later of lung cancer.
I went straight back to my full dose of citralopm and of course trying for the baby was put on hold. Bang straight away the health anxiety hit me full force.
I was absolutely gutted about loosing my Mum, and I was also upset at the thought that I would not be able to try for my second child.
Then within the space of the next month, my best friend, my SIL and my OH brothers girlfriend all announced they are pregnant. Along with my nextdoor neighbour, another friend and then another friend.
I feel like somebody is being really cruel to me or playing some sick joke. Don't get e wrong I am pleased for these woman, but here in comes my anxiety.
I am so scared I am going to be left out they all live very close and they are all going to have babies within 3 months of each other. I am already getting left out of things because they meet in the evenings and I can't because I have my daughter and they are all having their first babies.
I feel I don't belong with my friends, when I do see them all they talk about is babies which sort of excludes me from the conversation as I am not pregnant and I don't remember much of my pregnancy due to the distress I was in when I was. I try and change the conversation if I do get to go out, but it soon changes back. I can understand why, but I just feel so left out. I would be liar to admit I wasn't envious over them all being pregnant, its just so hard when you are the only one that isn't
I feel excluded and not part of this exclusive club which I fear will continue when they all have their babies.
My confidence is lacking and I also don't think I can bare to listen to baby talk everytime they meet anyway because it hurts. None of them seem to realise I am still hurting over my Mum and when they were all telling me they were pregnant it was only 2 weeks after my Mum died and I found it hard to share in their excitement. And it also hurts that they are all pregnant when I want to be so badly.
I just don't know what to do, I just don't feel like me and my daughter fit in with them (she is 2 and half)
I have tried mother and toddler groups but my confidence is so low I really struggle. I know I probably being selfish and jealous and overeacting but I don't know what to do.
I suppose I need everyone to tell me to get on with it and be so daft, but it hurts. I just don't feel like I belong with them. So much so I feel sick and really anxious when I do go to meet one of them.
I am sure I am getting some of my grief over Mum muddled in with this, but I jst don't know how to sort it out.
Sorry for my stupid ramblings and I know it probably doesn't make sense it just how its come out.
Sarah