dobbin1973
14-08-05, 17:15
Hi there,
My name is Simon and I am curretnly off work with depression and panic attacks. I have suffered with panic attacks ever since moving to clapham and in with my girlfriend 2 years ago.
After having an emotional breakdown a month ago the doctor advised some counselling sessions. Anyway cut a long story short and after threee sessions. It was apparant that due due to a servere lack of affection / sex life and missing home (chertsey in surrey where most of my famliy are) this was the cause of depression & stress. The more i came to realise this with the consellor the more i spoke of times where at points and i had wanted to scream and shout at my partner for things she had done or NOT done.... constantly asking for affection.... even silly things like holding hands ... all i use to get was " theres other people about!" .... anyway .... after serveal long conversations with my partner we have split up. i will be renting a flat in chertsey near my family and i have a job interview at shepperton studios this week.
This whole thing has been very difficult for me and my partner but realising what the cause of your stress is half the battle. The next step is doing something about it 8).
I just wanted anyone in the same situation or similar that as hard as it is admitting its your relationship thats causing stress/depressionor panic attacks. ..... its your health at the end of the day. I for instance had blamed the whole thing on a stressfull job and even though i thought it might be that fact that me the now ex maybe just not compatible i blocked it out as i did not want it to be that.
I know feel very positive and cant wait to get "home" around my family and get my self sorted ......
To anyone in the same situation .... be strong, be postive and above all put yourself and health first !
Would love to hear from anyone in a similar situation or who has gone through the same.
Remember its a state of mind and a panic attack can never hurt you ... i know its hard but try this. ... next time you feel ok and not ill in the slighest take a picture of something you can see. (most mobiles and cameras these days) look at the the object and remember that you feel fine and ok. Now next time you have an attack. Look at that picture and remember how you felt when you took this picture and that you will feel like this again. it helps me hopefully it will help you.
Take care.
Simon.
"all those moments will be lost in time ... like tears in rain! "
the above is taken from a fantastic film called Bladerunner of which im sure you have all heard of. Its the way i like to think of panic attacks.....
the panic attacks being the moments.
My name is Simon and I am curretnly off work with depression and panic attacks. I have suffered with panic attacks ever since moving to clapham and in with my girlfriend 2 years ago.
After having an emotional breakdown a month ago the doctor advised some counselling sessions. Anyway cut a long story short and after threee sessions. It was apparant that due due to a servere lack of affection / sex life and missing home (chertsey in surrey where most of my famliy are) this was the cause of depression & stress. The more i came to realise this with the consellor the more i spoke of times where at points and i had wanted to scream and shout at my partner for things she had done or NOT done.... constantly asking for affection.... even silly things like holding hands ... all i use to get was " theres other people about!" .... anyway .... after serveal long conversations with my partner we have split up. i will be renting a flat in chertsey near my family and i have a job interview at shepperton studios this week.
This whole thing has been very difficult for me and my partner but realising what the cause of your stress is half the battle. The next step is doing something about it 8).
I just wanted anyone in the same situation or similar that as hard as it is admitting its your relationship thats causing stress/depressionor panic attacks. ..... its your health at the end of the day. I for instance had blamed the whole thing on a stressfull job and even though i thought it might be that fact that me the now ex maybe just not compatible i blocked it out as i did not want it to be that.
I know feel very positive and cant wait to get "home" around my family and get my self sorted ......
To anyone in the same situation .... be strong, be postive and above all put yourself and health first !
Would love to hear from anyone in a similar situation or who has gone through the same.
Remember its a state of mind and a panic attack can never hurt you ... i know its hard but try this. ... next time you feel ok and not ill in the slighest take a picture of something you can see. (most mobiles and cameras these days) look at the the object and remember that you feel fine and ok. Now next time you have an attack. Look at that picture and remember how you felt when you took this picture and that you will feel like this again. it helps me hopefully it will help you.
Take care.
Simon.
"all those moments will be lost in time ... like tears in rain! "
the above is taken from a fantastic film called Bladerunner of which im sure you have all heard of. Its the way i like to think of panic attacks.....
the panic attacks being the moments.