goingmadder
21-04-09, 08:46
Morning everyone..
Been having a bad few days but now my fear that my anxiety and negative thoughts are here to stay is making it all harder to cope with.
I've been head over heals in love with my boyfriend but around thursday/friday last week, my negative thoughts started again and I started to doubt everything and analyze my feelings, questioning what I am meant to be feeling, scared that my feelings had changed.. i know partly this is to do with low self esteem.. having had an argument with him I felt my barriers (which i had managed to drop for the first time ever) come shooting back up. Thats when my anxiety started. Every waking moment is taken up by negative thoughts and feelings, questioning whether i really love him, whether i really love anyone even my own children.. this isn't a new symptom, i've done this in every relationship even with friendships i have ever had since my anxiety started 11 odd years ago.
I go to sleep feeling guilty for the thoughts convinced that the mere fact im thinking these thoughts means they must be true.. I wake in the middle of the night and in a second the thoughts are back racing through my mind like a speed deamon.
The guilt for the thoughts and the fear that they are true cause such anxiety inside me... I feel like i want to get out of my body and leave it behind.. get out of my head ... If i could run away from myself i would.
My boyfriend (although not perfect who is) is the most loving adorable affectionate caring gorgeous man I have ever been privledged to meet. We both have issues we need to deal with as individuals and as a couple but we are both aware of these things and can talk quite openly with eachother about them.
Im just so terrified of these feelings not going away... i want things back as they were a week ago... The analyzing and the doubts are so not wanted. I want to be with him, i want to build our lives together.. we've spoken or marriage, babies living together, he's taking on me and my two daughters thats a big step for anyone... I know he loves me...
All of my relationships have ended because of my analyzing.,.. i doubt myself into a corner feel totly unworthy og their love because i feel like i don't have the same feelings because my negativity fills my head with so much crap eventualy i break it off out of guilt or i make them hate me and make them leave me but always because i think they deserve better, they deserve someone who can love them ...
My doubts are not isolated to boyfriends though.. once in the cycle of questioning i question all my loves... my children.. what do i feel for them nothing... other family members? nothing friends? nothing... what am i meant to feel for them.. do i care about them? do i do things for them for my own selfish benefit, to make myself feel good? the list of questions go on...
I JUST WANT IT TO END... i want to feel happy and in love and just get on with enjoying my life but my brain wont stop!!! : (
I hate this!
Hope others are having a better day than I
Been having a bad few days but now my fear that my anxiety and negative thoughts are here to stay is making it all harder to cope with.
I've been head over heals in love with my boyfriend but around thursday/friday last week, my negative thoughts started again and I started to doubt everything and analyze my feelings, questioning what I am meant to be feeling, scared that my feelings had changed.. i know partly this is to do with low self esteem.. having had an argument with him I felt my barriers (which i had managed to drop for the first time ever) come shooting back up. Thats when my anxiety started. Every waking moment is taken up by negative thoughts and feelings, questioning whether i really love him, whether i really love anyone even my own children.. this isn't a new symptom, i've done this in every relationship even with friendships i have ever had since my anxiety started 11 odd years ago.
I go to sleep feeling guilty for the thoughts convinced that the mere fact im thinking these thoughts means they must be true.. I wake in the middle of the night and in a second the thoughts are back racing through my mind like a speed deamon.
The guilt for the thoughts and the fear that they are true cause such anxiety inside me... I feel like i want to get out of my body and leave it behind.. get out of my head ... If i could run away from myself i would.
My boyfriend (although not perfect who is) is the most loving adorable affectionate caring gorgeous man I have ever been privledged to meet. We both have issues we need to deal with as individuals and as a couple but we are both aware of these things and can talk quite openly with eachother about them.
Im just so terrified of these feelings not going away... i want things back as they were a week ago... The analyzing and the doubts are so not wanted. I want to be with him, i want to build our lives together.. we've spoken or marriage, babies living together, he's taking on me and my two daughters thats a big step for anyone... I know he loves me...
All of my relationships have ended because of my analyzing.,.. i doubt myself into a corner feel totly unworthy og their love because i feel like i don't have the same feelings because my negativity fills my head with so much crap eventualy i break it off out of guilt or i make them hate me and make them leave me but always because i think they deserve better, they deserve someone who can love them ...
My doubts are not isolated to boyfriends though.. once in the cycle of questioning i question all my loves... my children.. what do i feel for them nothing... other family members? nothing friends? nothing... what am i meant to feel for them.. do i care about them? do i do things for them for my own selfish benefit, to make myself feel good? the list of questions go on...
I JUST WANT IT TO END... i want to feel happy and in love and just get on with enjoying my life but my brain wont stop!!! : (
I hate this!
Hope others are having a better day than I