I wish I had some RL friends!

[nikkinik]

I feel such a saddo, such a loner..

I just wished I had one close friend.

I have a friend back where I used to live but thats 30miles away, I dont have a single friend where I live and I feel so lonely.

I must be an awful person to not have one single proper friend whom I can call up, chat with, confide in or even just watch a dvd with!

Im lonely, I really am:weep: .

[maddie]

aww nikkinik.
Where do you live? Have you been there long?
I don't have friends because I don't go out much with being agrophobic. There's loads of friends for you on her. xx

[nikkinik]

Hi Maddie,

Thanks for your reply.

Ive been here 18 months ish I guess, so long enough to have made at least one friend.. but nope! lol

Thats part of my problem, having lost contact with friends through issues and agoraphobia! It would be lovely to have a friend in a similar situation though wouldnt it.. a real one iykwim, one you can have round, chat about stuff with and maybe have a coffee!

I just miss having a special mate!

XX.

[scarecrow]

I know what you mean nikkinik, I don't work and although I have a lovely husband, he works full time and I don't see anyone in the daytime and like you, I would love someone to have coffee with or go and visit a friend for a couple of hours. Please don't feel a saddo or loser or I will be one as well. It is hard to make friends if you've got out of the routine of meeting people. I haven't got any girl friend I can ring up and say "do you want to go out for a girlie evening." Even though I am lucky with a lovely husband it would still be nice to have a girl friend or friends to see. You're not alone. Pity we don't live near each other. :)

Joining a church is a good way to meet people, you don't have to be religious.:)

[artyemma]

Depending on where you live gumtree.com is quite good you can put a post up in the friends only sub section. Ive made one nice new friend recently through doing that.

[belle]

Goodness. Don't i know just how you feel.

I *use* to have a really good group of friends and now - no one. Not ONE single friend left, which is a really sad state of affairs being 33 years old.

What i miss the most is having that person to call when your down/happy. I don't speak to anyone all day apart from my son when he gets home from school and he's 10, so he isn't really wanting to talk about my stuff.

What hurts the most is how my "friends" could just give up on me when i was/am sick. I've not had a friend now for 9 years. So, yeah, i know how you feel.

x

[tigger1964]

aww nik its hard enough moving and making new friends, i moved 254 miles away from my family and friends. Even now i have agoraphobia for the 2nd time, i am finding who my real friends actually are, people dont know what to say to me ne more. But what ive found, is im lucky, cos i have lots of new friends from here, people who understand me and me them and regardless of what the future holds i will still have my friends from here.

you keep ur chin up, and im sure you will make friends on here and when you are recovered you will be able to meet you new friends to xxx

take care xx


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[Oceanblue]

Where do you live Nic? PM me, hate to know somebody is feeling so alone.

Take care of yourself x:flowers:

[lotte_82]

Nikki

I also understand what it feels like to have no 'Real' friends....i think it is my fault, I undertsnad why no one would want to be around me, who wants a depressed friend who has panic attacks and cant eat properly.

Wouldn't it be great if everyone here could meet up in 'Real' life??

[PoppyC]

You are not a saddo or a loner! Dont put yourself down.
Our issues be it it agoraphobia, social anxiety, depression, anxiety or whatever, are bound to make it so much more difficult for us to meet people.
Personally since I have been unwell I didnt want other people in my life and I am very contented not having many people around and I used to be the one to have lots of friends and was very outgoing. My anxiety, breakdown and agoraphobia stopped all that, however now I am feeling a lot better I would like to start getting to meet new friends offline.
I was chatting with a lot of people yesterday when I was out and it felt good but I still didnt feel 100% like I used to around other people. Maybe I would feel more comfortable now around others who I can relate to with with what I have been through - people who have experienced similar things to myself. I feel different now to a lot of people that I know.
Have you ever met up with anyone through the site who is in your area? You say your friend lives 30 miles away...do you still keep in contact?...30 miles is not that far to at least meet up once every so often - could your friend not come to visit you?
Could you join any classes? Do you work? Are there people at work you could get to socialise with?
Keep posting.

[Southern_Belle]

Hi Nikki,

You have gotten some great advice here so I'm just gonna give you a great big :bighug1: .

Love,

Laura