melody
03-05-09, 08:21
Hi,
I have decided that I am sick & tired of poison friendships. I have had enough of thinking I have a friend, but as soon as I run out of money, don't do them a favour that day, speak the truth about my feelings, or in the many other ways that I don't give into their demands that time, I get dumped strait away. None of the nice things I've done when it was suggested are remembered. I go out of my way to help other people all the time. I get used. They pretend they like me, but they just think I'm a sucker. I guess I've had a habit of making friends who are manipulative because they can see I'm a soft touch about lending money & doing favours for others. They feed my ego a little as I have had low self esteem, so I fall for the things they tell me. Afterwards they are so rude they refuse to make eye contact & if I say hello they turn their back to me. Not nice! They won't tell me why so I used to assume the worst. I have noticed the pattern about when I run out of money now.
I need to change. I need to open my eyes & see who people really are, not who I would like them to be. I need to learn to be more perceptive in noticing the personalities of others. I believe the reason I've had disastrous friendships is because I accept all the flaws, I don't notice if people are using me, or if it's going both ways. Not until a year or more later when I get hurt if I run out of money, or if I have my own problem at the time & can't handle theirs that day. I let people get away with putting me down.
I would rather be alone than put up with someone who can't accept me the way I am, or who only accepts me if I continue to give into their demands. It's time I learned to have my own tricks for accepting myself that aren't reliant on anyone else. It's time for me to grow a backbone & learn to be stronger. There is no need to be afraid of they way people are.
If anyone else is facing a similar situation, feel free to tell me your thoughts.
I have decided that I am sick & tired of poison friendships. I have had enough of thinking I have a friend, but as soon as I run out of money, don't do them a favour that day, speak the truth about my feelings, or in the many other ways that I don't give into their demands that time, I get dumped strait away. None of the nice things I've done when it was suggested are remembered. I go out of my way to help other people all the time. I get used. They pretend they like me, but they just think I'm a sucker. I guess I've had a habit of making friends who are manipulative because they can see I'm a soft touch about lending money & doing favours for others. They feed my ego a little as I have had low self esteem, so I fall for the things they tell me. Afterwards they are so rude they refuse to make eye contact & if I say hello they turn their back to me. Not nice! They won't tell me why so I used to assume the worst. I have noticed the pattern about when I run out of money now.
I need to change. I need to open my eyes & see who people really are, not who I would like them to be. I need to learn to be more perceptive in noticing the personalities of others. I believe the reason I've had disastrous friendships is because I accept all the flaws, I don't notice if people are using me, or if it's going both ways. Not until a year or more later when I get hurt if I run out of money, or if I have my own problem at the time & can't handle theirs that day. I let people get away with putting me down.
I would rather be alone than put up with someone who can't accept me the way I am, or who only accepts me if I continue to give into their demands. It's time I learned to have my own tricks for accepting myself that aren't reliant on anyone else. It's time for me to grow a backbone & learn to be stronger. There is no need to be afraid of they way people are.
If anyone else is facing a similar situation, feel free to tell me your thoughts.