sick of being sick!

[zippy]

I have just been to docs about my endoscopy results and i have mild gastritis and i asked her if that would cause,nausea,loose bowels,backpain,loss of appetite and she said yes but i am not convinced because i feel tired all the time to.She said try the antacid tablets for a week and see if they help.I asked if it could be gallstones and she said no.I feel so frustrated how do you get them to test other things when they just put it down to mild gastritis and anxiety?I feel silly asking for an ultrasound scan of my organs because my bloods are ok and had chest xray and endoscopy,but having those hasnt put my mind at rest still.

[lauren6]

Zippy, I don't know your age and you may be too young for who usually gets gallstones. That may be why your doctor said no. You have to be your own advocate and ask if you want a sonogram for peace of mind, don't feel silly. All she can say is no.

I don't know how strict they are where you live about who pays for tests. Here we can go to any specialist we want but have the disadvantage of paying through the nose, if not the drs. fee, our private insurance which is so expensive.

I had many sonograms that showed no gallstones and finally went to a GI dr. who did another test, no stones but a poorly functioning gall bladder that had to come out. However, I was past 40 at the time. Point is, I wouldn't take no for an answer, I knew something wasn't right and I didn't think it was just IBS.

[zippy]

I am 39 and i have had m.e for 9yrs but these are different symptoms and i feel different but i feel no one believes me and putting it down to anxiety and stuff.Ideally i would like to ask for an ultrasound scan on my organs but my regular doctor has just put me through an appointment for a councillor and just thinks its that so i feel its a losing battle.He just keeps saying that if there was anything going on my bloods wouldnt be normal.

[Chrismascray]

Hi Zippy, just passing and as a HA sufferer I can relate to what ytou are saying, but, lets say you had the ultra sound and not the endoscopy, would you, and be honest with yourself here, have thought, well the ultrsound is good but why didnt I get a endoscopy and then convince yourself you needed that?. I do sympathise with you and I am not having a go at you at all, in fact the opposite. I do ask questions here, and I get some good answers and support, I hope you will take this message as support as well, but I found myself replying to messages as I could relate to people, as a fellow sufferer, I sat and thought to myself, " it is much easier helping others than yourself" thay made me think, so I re read all my posts as if someone else had written them and answered them, in my head, as if I was offering support to others, I was amazed at what I expwerienced, I am the same as the people I was offering support to, but then I was offering that support to myself, it helped a lot. My rambling point is this, first if the Docs thought for a second anything else needed looking into they would do it, you really wouldnt need to ask, second, if you had not had the tests you have had and had the tests you havent had you would most probably be wishing you had the ones you didnt have, if that makes sense, third, look at your post as if it was written by another and see what advice help and support you would give them. Fourthly, good luck and take care, asking you not to worry is pointless and to be frank a little patronising, so I wont, I will say SMILE rust me, it helps.

[zippy]

thanks christmascray,yes i do understand what your saying because my friend keeps saying think about what i would say to her if the same thing was happening to her.I would be the same and saying your not going to die and try and relax and trust the doctors but when its yourself and you feel so ill you cant get your head around that its not something sinister.I just wish it would go away and i could enjoy my 2 kids and partner and live a normal life.

[Chrismascray]

Hi Zippy, again, I am never quite sure what a normal life is, I have a reputation as being larger than life a lippy chirpy chappy, an ex rock singer, been on tv done tons of stuff, most of it whlle I was suffering from stress etc, so many people have said to me in the past, " I wish I was more like you" I always managed to stifle the smile, they had no idea, and that has made me realise, that and this site and talkiing to people, what is normal? maybe this is it? who knows, but trying to be like someone else is not , in my opinion, the way to go on, so many people and I will take a bet that you will know a few if not a lot, have troubles, fears stress anxiety, and behind closed doors they are suffering as we are, but they arent perhaps brave enough to say " hey look at me, I am normal but I have HA, So what" you see I think somnetimes we might be 'keeping up with the Jonses" they seem to be happy and have life just as it should be, but do they? do they really? maybe yes and good on them, whoever 'they' are but maybe just like us they have their own problems. I really hope you can enjoy your family, I know how important they are, and if yoiu are anything like me you get angry and sad that you arent what you think you should be, not for you but for them, I am guessing you are a lot more to them that you realise. Love yourself first, not in a selfish way, but in a way that is real and then Love the others, because if you feel bad a bout yourself it is hardeer to give. Take care and dont forget SMILE, It helps.