Bill
24-05-09, 04:04
I had a thought this evening which I thought I'd share.
Picture a person who can't swim. They're actually terrified of water! However, they want to overcome their fear of water because they want to be able to swim on holidays in the sea.
Their choices...
1) Give up because you just can't face going near a swimming pool.
2) Climb up to the diving board and dive straight into the deep end.
3) Attempt to stick their toes in the shallow end.
Which would you do? No pressure. It'd be entirely Your choice. If you want to swim though, no one else can do it for you or wave magic wand. You'd have to do it for You.
Option 1.
You give up because you feel it's hopeless. No one will or can help so you stay on dry land but you constantly beat yourself up and end up feeling very depressed but you feel safe.
Option 2.
You'd either find out you're a natural swimmer, or drown!
Option 3.
You develop a plan based on knowledge. You then find the courage to test the water. You put your toes in to get used to the feel of the water, then your feet, your legs, your body and gradually build up until you can put your head under. Eventually you then learn how to breathe properly. You take your first strokes with the help of a "buoyancy aid" and your confidence gradually builds in your own ability until you no longer need a support. You end up achieving your goal and overcome your fear of water.
Me? I do a mixture of options 1 and 3 although I have been confronted with option 2 at times as well!
At the end of the day though, it's what's Really important to us and what we're prepared to try to achieve our goal.
However, No one should be judged for taking option 1 and nor should they judge themselves for wanting or feeling they have no choice. We need to think of our own conscience, personal happiness and our limitations.
To learn to swim though, you need the 3 "P's" - "P"lanning, "p"ractise and "p"atience with a "little" "s"upport! :hugs:
Picture a person who can't swim. They're actually terrified of water! However, they want to overcome their fear of water because they want to be able to swim on holidays in the sea.
Their choices...
1) Give up because you just can't face going near a swimming pool.
2) Climb up to the diving board and dive straight into the deep end.
3) Attempt to stick their toes in the shallow end.
Which would you do? No pressure. It'd be entirely Your choice. If you want to swim though, no one else can do it for you or wave magic wand. You'd have to do it for You.
Option 1.
You give up because you feel it's hopeless. No one will or can help so you stay on dry land but you constantly beat yourself up and end up feeling very depressed but you feel safe.
Option 2.
You'd either find out you're a natural swimmer, or drown!
Option 3.
You develop a plan based on knowledge. You then find the courage to test the water. You put your toes in to get used to the feel of the water, then your feet, your legs, your body and gradually build up until you can put your head under. Eventually you then learn how to breathe properly. You take your first strokes with the help of a "buoyancy aid" and your confidence gradually builds in your own ability until you no longer need a support. You end up achieving your goal and overcome your fear of water.
Me? I do a mixture of options 1 and 3 although I have been confronted with option 2 at times as well!
At the end of the day though, it's what's Really important to us and what we're prepared to try to achieve our goal.
However, No one should be judged for taking option 1 and nor should they judge themselves for wanting or feeling they have no choice. We need to think of our own conscience, personal happiness and our limitations.
To learn to swim though, you need the 3 "P's" - "P"lanning, "p"ractise and "p"atience with a "little" "s"upport! :hugs: