amsufyan38
06-09-05, 13:05
Hi Guys..
I'm very new to this site but it's a relief to know that I'm not alone...
I need your help...I'm a 25 years old Asian married with two kids. I got married at the age of 18 to a girl from India. It was an arranged marriage which I agreed to and it was in no way forced. Well that's my introduction and my backgroud and now to my problems:
I just lack total confidence when I have to interact with people. I never answer the phone, never answer the door, when I go to supermakets I avoid people who I know, never go out with friends (I've only got a couple of friends), never go to drop my son off at School.
At work I've got a really bad attendance record. I work in a call centre and and as to avoid interacting with other people, I make up excuses to call in and then not to go to work. At work I've had problems making friends. This is because I can't talk in English fluently which I think is because of my confidence. My mother tounge is Urdu and as I've grown up I've always had friends who talk in my mother tounge. And as my self esteem has lowered I just can't seem to string a sentance in English without making any errors. This only happens when I speak English. It's not so much of a problem when I've got to write it as you can probably make out. Still, I'm aware it's not how it should be. Because I can't talk fluently I can't join in discussions and I feel very isolated and awkward....I feel really ashmed to discuss it with someone as I fell they'll laugh at me. I don't have any English friends to whom I can practise talking in English..I've got no idea as to how I should go about improving my English....
Don't know what to do.....
Guys Please Please Help.....
Amin
I'm very new to this site but it's a relief to know that I'm not alone...
I need your help...I'm a 25 years old Asian married with two kids. I got married at the age of 18 to a girl from India. It was an arranged marriage which I agreed to and it was in no way forced. Well that's my introduction and my backgroud and now to my problems:
I just lack total confidence when I have to interact with people. I never answer the phone, never answer the door, when I go to supermakets I avoid people who I know, never go out with friends (I've only got a couple of friends), never go to drop my son off at School.
At work I've got a really bad attendance record. I work in a call centre and and as to avoid interacting with other people, I make up excuses to call in and then not to go to work. At work I've had problems making friends. This is because I can't talk in English fluently which I think is because of my confidence. My mother tounge is Urdu and as I've grown up I've always had friends who talk in my mother tounge. And as my self esteem has lowered I just can't seem to string a sentance in English without making any errors. This only happens when I speak English. It's not so much of a problem when I've got to write it as you can probably make out. Still, I'm aware it's not how it should be. Because I can't talk fluently I can't join in discussions and I feel very isolated and awkward....I feel really ashmed to discuss it with someone as I fell they'll laugh at me. I don't have any English friends to whom I can practise talking in English..I've got no idea as to how I should go about improving my English....
Don't know what to do.....
Guys Please Please Help.....
Amin