redballoons
17-07-09, 07:08
hi
My husband had a really simple hernia operation in march, during the operation there were a few very minor problems which meant that he had a bigger extra scar and was in for an hour extra but nothing major.
BUT after the operation he had a big infection in the wound which left him with a big open wound (you could see the muscle and stiched inside through it!) an infected area which was painful and weeping and skin that was starting to die around it. He was on alot of medication making him sick and was back and forth to the hospital etc.
since then he has been down but the last few weeks it got completely out of control to the point where i couldnt get him into work for over a weeks becasue he was so depressed he was just crying uncontrolably in the mornings. He loves his work and seems generally happy so its was very confusing.
I was speaking to him a while ago and he i cant remember why but it truned to talking about the operation - only for a few second but i just saw his eyes fill with tears and he said " i didnt like being broken!".
could he be depressed because of the operation? if so could it be PTSD it doesnt seem like a major thing? he was quite ill for a while but I wouldnt say he was ever at deaths door if you see what I mean?
what would be best for me to do? he wont talk about it now and i think the doctor would just dissmiss it since he has just started taking antidepressants etc?
sophie
My husband had a really simple hernia operation in march, during the operation there were a few very minor problems which meant that he had a bigger extra scar and was in for an hour extra but nothing major.
BUT after the operation he had a big infection in the wound which left him with a big open wound (you could see the muscle and stiched inside through it!) an infected area which was painful and weeping and skin that was starting to die around it. He was on alot of medication making him sick and was back and forth to the hospital etc.
since then he has been down but the last few weeks it got completely out of control to the point where i couldnt get him into work for over a weeks becasue he was so depressed he was just crying uncontrolably in the mornings. He loves his work and seems generally happy so its was very confusing.
I was speaking to him a while ago and he i cant remember why but it truned to talking about the operation - only for a few second but i just saw his eyes fill with tears and he said " i didnt like being broken!".
could he be depressed because of the operation? if so could it be PTSD it doesnt seem like a major thing? he was quite ill for a while but I wouldnt say he was ever at deaths door if you see what I mean?
what would be best for me to do? he wont talk about it now and i think the doctor would just dissmiss it since he has just started taking antidepressants etc?
sophie