Prue89
21-07-09, 15:53
I might ramble on abit here so please bear with me :D
Always had a turbulant relationship with my mum. It started when i was 10 i moved out to live with my dad, It wasn't because of my mum, it was other reasons in that house.
Anyway, we fell out quite badly about 5 years and finally started to repair the damage at the beginning of this year. She moved to stoke on trent about 6 years ago, and i live near nottingham.
My sister moved back to the area so my mum regularly comes down to visit her and on the way she'd stop in on me.
She came up for my birthday at the end of june. She was planning for us all to go to see my sister who lives about 30 minutes away. Alittle nervous but ok.
I was rather ill at the time (my boyfriend is convinced i had mild swine flu :roflmao: )
Anyway, wasn't enough space in my mums car for us all, so me and my hubby followed. The roads were rather bendy which didn't help my feeling ill-ness. When we arrived it turned out that her village was having a fun day on this massive field. I tried my hardest but i was absolutely terrified. I tried keeping myself calm and distracting myself but to no avail. Hubby took me to a quiet corner and I still couldn't calm down. After about half an hour I couldn't do it anymore and I told my mum that i was going home. She knows the problems i have and she's suffered panic attacks herself. But the instant i said it she had such a horrible look on her face. She wouldn't hug me goodbye and barely said anything. She's been down since and hasn't dropped by. I've tried calling her many times but she won't pick up.
I don't know what to do. I tried my hardest but i couldn't do it and she was obviously annoyed with me for it.
I used to feel guilty for being with my boyfriend. Worried i wasn't being a good girlfriend because i couldn't come out with friends or we couldn't go for a meal and that he was only with me because he felt sorry for me, then he asked me to marry him so that wiped away them worries.
Should i feel guilty about not staying longer with my mum, i keep saying im going to go and visit in stoke but i've never found the courage. I just don't know what to do. I've tried for years to get my mum to love me and treat me like a daughter not someone she met in the street. I don't know if i can try anymore.
But i still feel guilty, still feel like my panic is ruining other peoples lives aswell as my own.
Does anyone feel the same?
Always had a turbulant relationship with my mum. It started when i was 10 i moved out to live with my dad, It wasn't because of my mum, it was other reasons in that house.
Anyway, we fell out quite badly about 5 years and finally started to repair the damage at the beginning of this year. She moved to stoke on trent about 6 years ago, and i live near nottingham.
My sister moved back to the area so my mum regularly comes down to visit her and on the way she'd stop in on me.
She came up for my birthday at the end of june. She was planning for us all to go to see my sister who lives about 30 minutes away. Alittle nervous but ok.
I was rather ill at the time (my boyfriend is convinced i had mild swine flu :roflmao: )
Anyway, wasn't enough space in my mums car for us all, so me and my hubby followed. The roads were rather bendy which didn't help my feeling ill-ness. When we arrived it turned out that her village was having a fun day on this massive field. I tried my hardest but i was absolutely terrified. I tried keeping myself calm and distracting myself but to no avail. Hubby took me to a quiet corner and I still couldn't calm down. After about half an hour I couldn't do it anymore and I told my mum that i was going home. She knows the problems i have and she's suffered panic attacks herself. But the instant i said it she had such a horrible look on her face. She wouldn't hug me goodbye and barely said anything. She's been down since and hasn't dropped by. I've tried calling her many times but she won't pick up.
I don't know what to do. I tried my hardest but i couldn't do it and she was obviously annoyed with me for it.
I used to feel guilty for being with my boyfriend. Worried i wasn't being a good girlfriend because i couldn't come out with friends or we couldn't go for a meal and that he was only with me because he felt sorry for me, then he asked me to marry him so that wiped away them worries.
Should i feel guilty about not staying longer with my mum, i keep saying im going to go and visit in stoke but i've never found the courage. I just don't know what to do. I've tried for years to get my mum to love me and treat me like a daughter not someone she met in the street. I don't know if i can try anymore.
But i still feel guilty, still feel like my panic is ruining other peoples lives aswell as my own.
Does anyone feel the same?