bereavement an anxiety trigger?

[d77]

Hello,

I'm not sure if this is the right forum to past, their are so many! but here goes.

Recently I have been feeling very restless, I lie in bed at night and can feel my heart beating more than usual. I find my mind racing thinking about many things over and over again, have trouble concentrating and feel generally emotionally drained. I seem to worry or over react at the most little insignificant things that happen daily life, whereas before I would just get on with things as you do and its beginning to affect me day to day, people are commenting how irritable I have become. I'm not sure if this is purely anxiety or anxiety/depression?

I have been thinking alot obout my fathers death recently, as their are some issues outstanding from it, which I think is because I did'nt deal with them at the time, just blocked out my feelings and got on with things, but it now seems to have hit me hard now, which I find strange as it was 4 years ago? I was starting to try deal with these these but now I seem to be getting this anxiety that needs to be dealt with first before I can deal with the root cause.

Do these symptoms make sense or am I on the wrong road?

[RosieXXX]

Hello d77,

It does sound like there is a connection between your suppressed feelings surrounding your father and your current anxiety. You mention you have been trying to deal with these outstanding issues; I wonder if you have had some bereavement counselling, or if you have been trying to work through them yourself. If you do have some professional counselling you may find this will help you work through unresolved feelings, which could be the root cause of your present restlessness. It isn't unusual for emotions that have been blocked to resurface, and it can be many years later, so what you are experiencing now makes perfect sense; I think it is good that you are beginning to confront them,and I hope you are able to find someone who can guide you through.

[d77]

Hi,

Thanks for the reply... I have asked for some bereavement councilling from my doctor but the waiting list is very long, they did offer me some anti depressants aswell but I declined at this time.

I sort of wish I could just hide my feelings again as I was getting on fine. Now i'm remembering all details about his illness and it is just making the anxiety worse, I also made the mistake of telling my mum. Now she is feeling bad about it again and it has brought up other issues which makes me feel bad that I have caused this. Its like a big vicious circle!

[Thumbelina]

hiding it will not help

Often the triggers for anxiety and depression are associalted with unresolved emotions, hidden filings.

Thats why people extraverts have less psychological issues. They scream, shout, cry ON SPOT, and dont hide anything, then they forget and get over.

I also been hiding many issues for years. I remember clearly that once i had to take some decision that was not exactly within my principles, so i told myself - dont worry i will deal with it and with my consience later.

Yes, later it hit me 10 times worse....

Now i try to resolve natural emotions, reactions on spot.

Death of a close person can hardly pass without depression and anxiety, so dont consider yourself alone. Talking to people and even your mam about it is not something to be embarressed of. Your mam maybe needs to talk about it with you even more.

Take care