heavymind
10-08-09, 16:31
Hi,
I have recently come to UK and have found a flatshare acco to stay in.
I have been in UK 5 years back for around 5-6 months and at that time
the living room was shared other than the room where we stayed. Every
one used their own cooking utensils and cutleries.
In the new place I was surprised to find that cooking utensils and cutleries
where shared too. I used to go to the living room and sit watch TV while
eating, its 10 days since I moved in. Only today my live-in land lady told me
the TV room was only for her and her husbands. She was polite to ask
if I wanted a TV on my room, I said no, and she said normally the other
lodgers do not use the TV room. I said okay I will keep it that way. While
leaving the room, I said "Thanks for telling me, sorry about that".
Should I have realized by myself by noticing the other lodgers do not go
to that room? Will I be seen as somebody who invaded the privacy. I some
times go blind in understanding from peoples gestures.
Since I am new to the UK, I want to be sure, I am not mistaken. Is there
something else that I should have told? what is the general flatshare
culture here in UK, does it vary largely. I find in UK people seem to not
tell thing on the face, onlike in cultures I am used to. I have been in India
and in the US and I find that people tell on the face on day one. Here
why to people take such a long time to tell. That gives a false sense of
everything else alright, while things may not be.
Regards,
Ram
I have recently come to UK and have found a flatshare acco to stay in.
I have been in UK 5 years back for around 5-6 months and at that time
the living room was shared other than the room where we stayed. Every
one used their own cooking utensils and cutleries.
In the new place I was surprised to find that cooking utensils and cutleries
where shared too. I used to go to the living room and sit watch TV while
eating, its 10 days since I moved in. Only today my live-in land lady told me
the TV room was only for her and her husbands. She was polite to ask
if I wanted a TV on my room, I said no, and she said normally the other
lodgers do not use the TV room. I said okay I will keep it that way. While
leaving the room, I said "Thanks for telling me, sorry about that".
Should I have realized by myself by noticing the other lodgers do not go
to that room? Will I be seen as somebody who invaded the privacy. I some
times go blind in understanding from peoples gestures.
Since I am new to the UK, I want to be sure, I am not mistaken. Is there
something else that I should have told? what is the general flatshare
culture here in UK, does it vary largely. I find in UK people seem to not
tell thing on the face, onlike in cultures I am used to. I have been in India
and in the US and I find that people tell on the face on day one. Here
why to people take such a long time to tell. That gives a false sense of
everything else alright, while things may not be.
Regards,
Ram