Annabelle
14-08-09, 12:51
I'm stuck. I have reached a place with my anxiety and agoraphobia where I rarely have an anxiety attack unless I have to do something out of my comfort zone. My comfort zone is just that - comfortable. I work for 2 hours in the morning cleaning about 10 mins from my house. When I get home I play on the internet or watch tv, if i'm doing an open university course towards my degree I'll do a bit of studying. I will walk the dog or have tea if a friend pops round. In the evening when my boyfriend frinishes work I will go to his house and we might have dinner together, or we might go and have a drink at the pub or see a few friends. At the weekends I go and watch him play cricket or I'll potter about with my mum. If my bf is around we might pop into town and wander around if it's quiet. I live with my parents so don't pay any bills or rent etc and I get taken places by my bf or sister in the car if it's too far for me to walk without anxiety - Nice life really.
Thats the problem. It's not really a life. I am too scared to move foward - to try and better myself and my situation because i know it will cause me anxiety, and in my own little comfort zone things arent all that bad.
I can't live at home forever - i'm not sure i want to despite how nice it is! I need to grow up and have my own space and look after myself. I need to be able to drive myself places - plus that would increase my independence as i could take myself places and not have to rely on others for lifts. I need to get a proper job to support myself, to have my own money and to buy my own place etc etc... I have been waiting for these things to happen but knowing deep down they won't until i do something about it.
Trouble is if i do something about it and fail then there is no - one to blame but myself. If i fail and end up worse anxiety wise then i am now then t hat would be terrible. But if i dont move foward - is it equally as terrible to be stuck in the situation i am now - existing but not living?
I feel paralysed - too scared to move foward in case i fall back. I am always waiting - like one day i'm going to wake up and things will have happend to make it better - what do i thinks going to happen exactly? the anxiety faries will come in and take it all away so when i wake up i will have no fear about changing my life?
what if this is it for me? what if this is as good as i get? what if this is me forever - this was all i was meant to have on my cards. All these plans i have in my head for travelling and working and living - maybe thats all they will ever be, dreams - not everyone gets a happy ending do they?
i'm sorry this turned into a rant - i think i just needed to get a few things out that have been circling in my head for a while.
What upsets me is that i know underneath all this i am a strong person - but somehow it all got lost. I can't even remember who i was before - i feel like im mourning for who might have been .
ok cheery face back on - musn't grumble.
anna xx
Thats the problem. It's not really a life. I am too scared to move foward - to try and better myself and my situation because i know it will cause me anxiety, and in my own little comfort zone things arent all that bad.
I can't live at home forever - i'm not sure i want to despite how nice it is! I need to grow up and have my own space and look after myself. I need to be able to drive myself places - plus that would increase my independence as i could take myself places and not have to rely on others for lifts. I need to get a proper job to support myself, to have my own money and to buy my own place etc etc... I have been waiting for these things to happen but knowing deep down they won't until i do something about it.
Trouble is if i do something about it and fail then there is no - one to blame but myself. If i fail and end up worse anxiety wise then i am now then t hat would be terrible. But if i dont move foward - is it equally as terrible to be stuck in the situation i am now - existing but not living?
I feel paralysed - too scared to move foward in case i fall back. I am always waiting - like one day i'm going to wake up and things will have happend to make it better - what do i thinks going to happen exactly? the anxiety faries will come in and take it all away so when i wake up i will have no fear about changing my life?
what if this is it for me? what if this is as good as i get? what if this is me forever - this was all i was meant to have on my cards. All these plans i have in my head for travelling and working and living - maybe thats all they will ever be, dreams - not everyone gets a happy ending do they?
i'm sorry this turned into a rant - i think i just needed to get a few things out that have been circling in my head for a while.
What upsets me is that i know underneath all this i am a strong person - but somehow it all got lost. I can't even remember who i was before - i feel like im mourning for who might have been .
ok cheery face back on - musn't grumble.
anna xx