cool4cats
05-10-05, 12:08
I'm hoping that someone on here can help me with a very difficult situation I am trying to deal with right now. I don't know where else to go so am hoping that you may be able to help.
The problem is with my husband, he has always been a bit OTT when it comes to his health although he is extremely rational and supportive with anyone else's problems. He has previously worried about testicular cancer, brain tumour, bowel cancer etc etc.
He has been having some blood tests on his liver due to an unrelated problem and they have thrown up some levels which are not in the normal range. He has been refered to a consultant and is going to see someone ina couple of months.
He is convinced (after reading on the internet which I have told him not to do again) that he has cancer and is going to die (he is 30), he is extremely depressed and has lost interest in everything, he barely smiles and everything is a huge effort for him. He doesn't want to talk about anything apart from this and anything I say is related back to his health worries. It is all he can talk about. If he is on his own while I am at work he sits and worries about it. It is basically ruining our lives. I end up in tears every night.
Don't get me wrong I do have concerns about his health but am sure (as is his GP) that it is nothing serious as he has no other symptoms. I am so worried and stressed about his irrational behaviour that it is starting to make me ill. I don't know how to handle it! We live quite a distance from both our families and although mine are aware of the situation - I had to talk to someone - I don't think his realise how difficult it is.
I grew up in a family where we have had serious health issues to deal with (my Mum had breast cancer and is still here to tell the tale) and so perhaps I am more aware that just because there is a problem it doesn't mean a death sentance. Those of you who have problems with health anxiety, how do your partners deal with it because I am at the end of my tether!!
The problem is with my husband, he has always been a bit OTT when it comes to his health although he is extremely rational and supportive with anyone else's problems. He has previously worried about testicular cancer, brain tumour, bowel cancer etc etc.
He has been having some blood tests on his liver due to an unrelated problem and they have thrown up some levels which are not in the normal range. He has been refered to a consultant and is going to see someone ina couple of months.
He is convinced (after reading on the internet which I have told him not to do again) that he has cancer and is going to die (he is 30), he is extremely depressed and has lost interest in everything, he barely smiles and everything is a huge effort for him. He doesn't want to talk about anything apart from this and anything I say is related back to his health worries. It is all he can talk about. If he is on his own while I am at work he sits and worries about it. It is basically ruining our lives. I end up in tears every night.
Don't get me wrong I do have concerns about his health but am sure (as is his GP) that it is nothing serious as he has no other symptoms. I am so worried and stressed about his irrational behaviour that it is starting to make me ill. I don't know how to handle it! We live quite a distance from both our families and although mine are aware of the situation - I had to talk to someone - I don't think his realise how difficult it is.
I grew up in a family where we have had serious health issues to deal with (my Mum had breast cancer and is still here to tell the tale) and so perhaps I am more aware that just because there is a problem it doesn't mean a death sentance. Those of you who have problems with health anxiety, how do your partners deal with it because I am at the end of my tether!!