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k9love
26-12-09, 21:52
I cant cope anymore!. really convinced I have something bad going on in my body, spent all of xmas on internet! looking up symptoms!have mums funeral coming up,got two very pooly dogs!! dont want to socialise anymore! just taken to drinking wine to forget everything thats going on!!

Tomimo
26-12-09, 22:10
I've been pretty much the same over xmas so I can sympathise with how crappy and scary it feels. It sounds like you've got a lot to deal with without the anxiety so be kind to yourself.

I keep telling myself that I only have to cope until Monday and then I can see a doctor and if the worst comes to the worst I can go to A&E......I'm trying to hold it together for the kids.

I really hope you feel calmer soon x x

pollyanna
26-12-09, 22:17
K9


I wish i could do or say something that would help, you are going through a very traumatic time right now, it has shook your foundations, and is making you doubt everything especially your health, but looking up symtoms on the internet, and i speak from experience, wont help, in fact it just makes it worse, and i know you think it helps at the moment, but drinking wine wont help either hun.
You are grieving for your mother, unfortunately its a process that we have to work through to come out the otherside, i feel for you so much right now, do you have any other support to help you through this, family/friends? even calling a bereavement helpline could be useful to you right now.

thinking of you


P x:hugs:

dizzyma
26-12-09, 22:24
hi k9love..it sounds like you have an awful lot extra to deal with at the moment which will make you feel so much more anxious and you have my sympathy.

Tomimo thats exactly what Ive been telling myself aswell..theres always A&E to see me through till monday..just keep trying hard to keep busy so Im not constantly thinking about the chest groanings,(which i know is muscular!!)

I hope ur both ok!! :- )

k9love
26-12-09, 22:33
Thanks Pollyanna, I dont know where Im going right now!
Its been very traumatic the last year, what with my symptoms starting 10mths ago and looking after my mum for the past 2 years, I just wish I felt well then I could probably cope better with the fact mum has died, then theres my dogs, ok they are dogs but to me they are children, Ive never had children and they are my family, they are both elderly and ill, its going to kill me when I lose them as well as mum, I know I shouldnt google symptoms but I am trying to find out what is wrong with me so I can have peace of mind for next week at the funeral, I have sisters that are of some help but they obviously are more consumed by the funeral than my problems so I cant really talk to them about it.
Hubby is of the mind that the ENT didnt get me an appointment straight away so he just says dont worry, easier said than done when its not yourself that is worried! so Im afraid Im all alone with my worries, and believe me the wine does take away the symptoms:blush: well untill the cold light of day returns!
Thanks again.

pollyanna
26-12-09, 23:20
k9

trust me when i say googling symptoms wont give you peace of mind, you always end up with more information and most of it is not helpful, and then you end up worrying about something else, i did the same thing only last week, and got myself into a right state, i know its hard not to look, but really try not too, the mind will latch on to anythng and its usually the bad stuff.
its good you have people around you, but that doesnt stop you feeling alone with all this. and as for the dogs, i do understand what you mean , i have had pets all my life, and very much consider them to be part of the family. and as you said yourself, wine helps at the time but not in the cold light of day.

sending you love and hugs

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Andyroo
26-12-09, 23:28
i can understand what your going threw ive been worried about my health alott lately and because of it i didnt have a good christmas... i can understand what your going threw... im sorry you have been so worried im sure everything is fine a nice warm ccup of chammomile tea and honey always helps alittle for me :)