Hello, sent here.

[skelpo]

Good afternoon, I was given this site by my therapist who I worked with this mornig on 2 issues that affected me badly. Depression from the loss of my mother, then guilt for not handling it right.

Well my therapist suggested i view this site because of the vast information available here, just looking around quickly i can see this will be a benefit to me. I am going to check the forum out now.

Skelpo

[lainey]

Hi Skelpo

Welcome to the forum, you'll get loads of help and support hee from like-minded people.
I lost my Mum 8 years ago and know how you feel, it will get better with time I promise you.

Take care

Elaine x

[trac67]

Hi Skelpo,

Welcome to the forum, you will get a lot of great advice here and make some good friends.

Feel free to pm me if you ever need a chat.

Take care
Trac xxx

'Live your life with arms wide open, today is where your book begins, the rest is still unwritten'

[skelpo]

replies already, this is wonderful.
Thanks.

Skelpo

[Meg]

Skelpo ,

Glad to have you here with us. Welcome.

Don't mistake depression for grief.

Grief is natural and healthy reaction after a loss and can persist for a long time.

Sadness is a normal emotion that we all feel for periods of time after a loss, although in this busy life we live, we are encouraged and almost expected to get over death and be back to normal sooner than our innards are ready..

As for the guilt- I'm not asking you to share with us as I'm sure you're doing this with your therapist but think and rationalize carefully whether there was any real substantiation at the time for your now self imposed guilt or whether now, after the event and with the benefit of hind sight, you think you ought or should have done things differently but in reality had you been there again with only the orginal situation and circumstances you would have done somthing similar again ...

You might want to look up www.Cruse.org too who are specialists in bereavement.

Take care and be gentle on yourself


Meg
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Your anxiety is the human representation of the pictures that you paint using your many vivid colours of revolving and reoccurring thoughts.
How big is your gallery ?

[Piglet]

A big welcome to the site:D

love Piglet x

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"Supposing it didn't," said Pooh after careful thought.

[dream]

hi skelpo
welcome to this site
denisexx

denise

[clickaway]

Hi Skelpo and glad to have you on board.

I am pleased that you have already sought help regarding your bereavment and that, along with coming here is a very positive you on your part. It can be a gradual process, so hang on in there.

Its good to learn that your therapist knows about this site too.

Take Care,

Ray

And when you get the choice to sit it out or dance, I hope you dance.
~Mark Sanders and Tia Sillers

[skelpo]

Dear Meg, thanks for your indepth suggestions. However in my professional role of Clinical psychologist, i can clearly state that my depression was not grief related, depression was starting just before this happened. What I am saying is that i have had a positive cognitive shift in my belief system.

The guilt was family related.

[vernon]

Welcome Skelpo, yes u will get lots of help and support here. You can also join in our chat room. good luck, Vernon

[alexis]

Hi skelpo, just to say weelcome to the site, Im sure you will find it very useful, Ive sent you a pm, take care.

love from Alexisxx

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[sueiamnew]

Welcome to the site Skelpo.

[Karen]

Hi Skelpo

Welcome to the forum.

Karen



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[chucklehound]

Hi Skelpo and welcome to NMP where you will get lots of support and make some great friends too!:D

Take Care

Chucklehound

xxxx

[jill]

Hi Skelpo

WELCOME TO THE SITE :D

TAKE CARE

LOVE JILLXX

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learn as much about it as you can,
Knowledge conquers fear.