out of control again [Archive]

jordan4

14-01-10, 17:55

Hi, this is my first visit to a site like this. I'm a 31 year old mother of one and been happily married for 8 yrs. I've been suffering from anxiety/panic attacks/mild depression for nearly 10 years. Been off medication for 2yrs until last week when I suddenly had a major relapse. Anxiety is so bad I can feel the adrenalin rushing down my arms and legs. Feel hot/cold/sweaty etc. i'm just so fed up. Is this something that I have to put up with forever? I know the only way out is to fight it and a lot of hard work. Can I be bothered? everthing is such an effort. Feel like no-one understands.

diane07

14-01-10, 17:56

Hi jordan4

We just wanted to welcome you aboard to NMP. We hope you enjoy your stay here and get all the support and advice you need.

Please take some time to read the website articles on the left as well for loads of advice and tips.

KK77

14-01-10, 19:59

Hello Jordan

It's not something you'll have to put up with forever - with the help of medication and other talking therapies/self-help it can get better. Don't feel angry at yourself for having a relapse - it happens - and you'll meet lots of people here that will help and support you in your recovery.

Welcome to NMP

jordan4

15-01-10, 10:52

thank you for responding. the Dr has advised more counselling. I've had so much in the past. there must be something else to get rid of this horrible feeling. Should I do more counselling? What about seeing a specialist? Not sure which way to go.

Brunette

15-01-10, 12:08

Hi Jordan,

It will help a lot if you take the attitude of "accepting" rather than "fighting " your anxiety as this is exactly what anxiety feeds on. I know this is the hardest thing in the world but it is what works. Have you read Claire Weekes? It will explain why better than I can but it is all to do with your nervous system reacting in a way it is designed to do but for the wrong reasons.

Anyway there's no reason to carry on feeling as if no-one understands anymore be cause we all do.

Hope you feel better soon. :hugs:

B

Typer

16-01-10, 13:49

Welcome to this helpful place

jordan4

20-01-10, 13:28

thanks Brunette , i think you're right. I am trying to fight it. I feel like it's so unfair. Perhaps just accepting it would help. I will try the Clare Weakes thing. Thanks for responding. It feels nice that I'm not the only person who feels like this.

Persephone

20-01-10, 18:45

Hi Jordan,

It will help a lot if you take the attitude of "accepting" rather than "fighting " your anxiety as this is exactly what anxiety feeds on. I know this is the hardest thing in the world but it is what works. Have you read Claire Weekes? It will explain why better than I can but it is all to do with your nervous system reacting in a way it is designed to do but for the wrong reasons.

Anyway there's no reason to carry on feeling as if no-one understands anymore be cause we all do.

Hope you feel better soon. :hugs:

B
This is very true. My therapist always talks about 'experiencing' the anxiety instead of fighting it or actively trying to reduce it. It's about adopting a different philosophy to the way you interpret and deal with anxiety, which is obviously difficult and time consuming, but I think it's the way to get long lasting effects.

Another book you might want to have a look at is 'The Anxiety and Phobia Workbook' by Edmund J. Bourne. It covers just about all kinds of anxiety and works through all aspects of it practically taking account of medication, nutrition, possible comorbidities, and all the things that feed anxiety like negative self-talk, mistaken beliefs, and catastrophizing thoughts.

x

jordan4

22-01-10, 14:44

thanks for all the advice. I am willing to try anything!! Just started reading "Self-help for your nerves" by Dr claire Weekes. Is this the right book? there were a lot! It seems really good.

you talk of your Therapist. What kind of therapist do you see? Is it something you pay for? Hope you don't mind me asking.

thanks again x

Maj

22-01-10, 14:59

If you read this book and practise the advice in it, you won't fail to get better. It takes time but you will get there. Highlight any paragraphs that make you feel better and read them over and over again to comfort you. If you ever hit a wee setback then you can get the book out again to reassure you. It's been like a bible to me and I wouldn't part with it!!
Myra:hugs: