mystic3178
17-01-10, 13:51
Hi Folks
Today I'm having a bad day and can't work out why. I cried earlier when wife was away at church. Since I left my part time job in the rescue services due to stress/anxiety/burnout, thing got somewhat better but I now have a suspision that depression may be rearing it's ugly head. I feel crap in that I find it difficult to get motivated to do things especially things that I loved. At the moment, I just seem to be going through the motions of life with no positive outlook in life ahead. IS this what the next 30-40 year is going to be like (I'm 42)
Whilst I though I had got rid of the 'job' that was causing me the problems, the void seems to be getting filled with other problems in my breadwinning job and a few issues at home.
I'm losing interest at work due to attitude with other people. I can see situations developing in which I have no control over yet am being caught up in - bit of a power struggle at top of ladder. I can't really go to anyone because the issue is at the top and I seem to be getting pulled pillar to post with everybody. I've back off the pedal a bit in order to help my health and people are noticing. I'm telling them straight that I can't do everything and some have taken a humpy head which irks me because I've been giving my all - even in jobs that are not my responsibilty
At home, I'm glossing over my 'problems' cus my wife has enough of her own to deal with. With one problem, we can't decide whether to go ahead and have a child becasue my wife is a fragile x carrier which can lead to autism. Its a 75% / 25% split that the child will be okay but to be honest, I'm scared even thought I'd love to be a father. I just found out that my wife didn't really want to have children becasue she felt that she would make a bad mother - issues from her own childhood and that gutted me becasue she is brilliant with our nephews. My wife is now 41 which kind of adds complications. Even thougn she know about my burnout, I haven't told her how bad I really feel.
With everything going on in my head, I feel empty, useless and most of all, so tired. I've to go to a party next weekend with my wife to show a DVD that I recorded of a play thay my wife was involved in and the though of spending 6-8 hours in the same place fills me with dread. My problem is, I feel that I need to be constantly on the move and with everyting swilling around in my head, I get tired then over emotional and want to scream and cry my heart out and I really mean cry my heart out.
I look back and wonder what I did wrong in life to deserve this. Was I a bad person in another life becasue I can't seem to fathom this life out.
Sorry this is such a long post but I needed to get this out to see if anyne can help me make sense of it all.
Mystic3178
Today I'm having a bad day and can't work out why. I cried earlier when wife was away at church. Since I left my part time job in the rescue services due to stress/anxiety/burnout, thing got somewhat better but I now have a suspision that depression may be rearing it's ugly head. I feel crap in that I find it difficult to get motivated to do things especially things that I loved. At the moment, I just seem to be going through the motions of life with no positive outlook in life ahead. IS this what the next 30-40 year is going to be like (I'm 42)
Whilst I though I had got rid of the 'job' that was causing me the problems, the void seems to be getting filled with other problems in my breadwinning job and a few issues at home.
I'm losing interest at work due to attitude with other people. I can see situations developing in which I have no control over yet am being caught up in - bit of a power struggle at top of ladder. I can't really go to anyone because the issue is at the top and I seem to be getting pulled pillar to post with everybody. I've back off the pedal a bit in order to help my health and people are noticing. I'm telling them straight that I can't do everything and some have taken a humpy head which irks me because I've been giving my all - even in jobs that are not my responsibilty
At home, I'm glossing over my 'problems' cus my wife has enough of her own to deal with. With one problem, we can't decide whether to go ahead and have a child becasue my wife is a fragile x carrier which can lead to autism. Its a 75% / 25% split that the child will be okay but to be honest, I'm scared even thought I'd love to be a father. I just found out that my wife didn't really want to have children becasue she felt that she would make a bad mother - issues from her own childhood and that gutted me becasue she is brilliant with our nephews. My wife is now 41 which kind of adds complications. Even thougn she know about my burnout, I haven't told her how bad I really feel.
With everything going on in my head, I feel empty, useless and most of all, so tired. I've to go to a party next weekend with my wife to show a DVD that I recorded of a play thay my wife was involved in and the though of spending 6-8 hours in the same place fills me with dread. My problem is, I feel that I need to be constantly on the move and with everyting swilling around in my head, I get tired then over emotional and want to scream and cry my heart out and I really mean cry my heart out.
I look back and wonder what I did wrong in life to deserve this. Was I a bad person in another life becasue I can't seem to fathom this life out.
Sorry this is such a long post but I needed to get this out to see if anyne can help me make sense of it all.
Mystic3178