Hope1
19-01-10, 20:12
Hello there
My friend died last year from an inherited disease, she was only in her late twenties. Her mum and sister ignored me and my friends at the funeral, and since then her sister has sent lots of nasty emails to us saying that we weren't there enough for her sister and that she had wanted to say something about it for years.
This has been a complete shock to us all, as I always thought they liked us, we had been up to see our friend at home her mum always spoke to us, and I would never have guessed how they felt about us.
We visited our friend in hospital and were always in touch by text. But apparently she told the social worker that her friends weren't there for her. But - we all work and we couldn't be there everyday.
I feel that we have been good friends to her over the years and that we did our best, but that doesn't seem enough for her sister & mum.
We hoped that we could keep in touch with her family and give some support, but that’s obviously not going to happen now.
I am a very anxious person anyway and this whole situation is just playing over and over in my mind.
I keep thinking what if they do something to harm us. As one of her emails said she wishes it was us who had died and not her sister. I am terrified of bumping into them when I go out, I am very very anxious about the way they feel towards us.
My other friends just say to forget about it because we have done nothing wrong, and that its not worth wasting time over.
Are her mum and sister taking their grief out on us? Has anyone been in the same situation? Can you offer any advice.
It has been 5 months since the emails from her sister, should we just keep quiet now or do I get in touch to let them know that we are still thinking about them?
Thanks for taking the time to read this.
My friend died last year from an inherited disease, she was only in her late twenties. Her mum and sister ignored me and my friends at the funeral, and since then her sister has sent lots of nasty emails to us saying that we weren't there enough for her sister and that she had wanted to say something about it for years.
This has been a complete shock to us all, as I always thought they liked us, we had been up to see our friend at home her mum always spoke to us, and I would never have guessed how they felt about us.
We visited our friend in hospital and were always in touch by text. But apparently she told the social worker that her friends weren't there for her. But - we all work and we couldn't be there everyday.
I feel that we have been good friends to her over the years and that we did our best, but that doesn't seem enough for her sister & mum.
We hoped that we could keep in touch with her family and give some support, but that’s obviously not going to happen now.
I am a very anxious person anyway and this whole situation is just playing over and over in my mind.
I keep thinking what if they do something to harm us. As one of her emails said she wishes it was us who had died and not her sister. I am terrified of bumping into them when I go out, I am very very anxious about the way they feel towards us.
My other friends just say to forget about it because we have done nothing wrong, and that its not worth wasting time over.
Are her mum and sister taking their grief out on us? Has anyone been in the same situation? Can you offer any advice.
It has been 5 months since the emails from her sister, should we just keep quiet now or do I get in touch to let them know that we are still thinking about them?
Thanks for taking the time to read this.