anxiousd
23-01-10, 23:11
I have been in my current relationship for 4 months. I am a gay guy, 31, and have low self-esteem. I also suffer from generalised anxiety and sometimes panic attacks. On good days, I am fairly happy but on bad days (lack of sleep or hungover etc.) I start thinking inward about everything.
My partner is 28 and he has been in many long-term relationships - mine have never really lasted that long. I told him I can be insecure sometimes and the way he sometimes treats me I find unfair. This weekend he told me he was too ill to come over, which upset as we usually see each other at weekends only. I found out he went to work on the saturday and then to his ex-boyfriends to pick up an item of furniture.
I confronted him and he said he was sorry but that I was over-reacting. I asked if he was coming round as he felt better. He said he was too tired.
I told him how that made me feel and he couldn't see why.
I know I am over-analytical and dependent on this relationship working out. I love him lots and possibly im infatuated with the idea of loving him too.
I wonder if anyone else feels like I do? How do I stop these thoughts and feelings ruining my relationship? Is there anyone else who has limited experience?
I feel like Im going mad and am not sure I am connecting with him even though I do have strong feelings. HELP!
Thanks
My partner is 28 and he has been in many long-term relationships - mine have never really lasted that long. I told him I can be insecure sometimes and the way he sometimes treats me I find unfair. This weekend he told me he was too ill to come over, which upset as we usually see each other at weekends only. I found out he went to work on the saturday and then to his ex-boyfriends to pick up an item of furniture.
I confronted him and he said he was sorry but that I was over-reacting. I asked if he was coming round as he felt better. He said he was too tired.
I told him how that made me feel and he couldn't see why.
I know I am over-analytical and dependent on this relationship working out. I love him lots and possibly im infatuated with the idea of loving him too.
I wonder if anyone else feels like I do? How do I stop these thoughts and feelings ruining my relationship? Is there anyone else who has limited experience?
I feel like Im going mad and am not sure I am connecting with him even though I do have strong feelings. HELP!
Thanks