ridingthewaves
26-01-10, 18:46
:) Ah hello folks,I haven't posted for quite some time,as I have been doing well and in my wellness assumed I had finished with anxiety ..lol should have known!
I have had a lot of extra things to do with recently,my mother has been quite ill for 5 months so I've been helping my dad out and dealing with doctors and things,my son is constantly on about cars and money and is not very good round the house,work has lots of changes going on due to cutbacks;I have an ex husband who i have a great friendship with and who cares enough to be there for me,just does not want to be with me as a couple,so confusion often reigns in my head :), I have a male friend who would like more but to whom I cannot give more because I'm always hoping for my ex lol.,i had a severe cold for 2 weeks and to really grind me I had a bank appointment to alter my mortgage and add some extra money ,all agreed and they ahd no problem..but I did I suddenly hit panic and have not selpt well for 3 days ,tearful,anxiety,aches and tension..wham I felt like i had gone back 5 years !!! It was s if all my coping skills had never exsisted !!
I know now that everything just got too much , I did not step off when i could have done and I just kept the mountain going !!
I am now reinstating the skills I learnt whilst dealing with the aftermarth of the flood of anxiety. And I know I really do still need to set boundaries , and look after me.
Having had Miss anxiety for 34 years I guess I was expecting too much to believe I was 'cured'..BUT most of the time I'm ok,no I'm good..I just have to accept my limits and keep my eyes on the warning signs.
Thanks guys I needed to get that out :).
Any advice on staying good friends with ex husbands whilst moving on to another relationship greatly appreciated :))
love and good thoughts to all
jan:bighug1:
I have had a lot of extra things to do with recently,my mother has been quite ill for 5 months so I've been helping my dad out and dealing with doctors and things,my son is constantly on about cars and money and is not very good round the house,work has lots of changes going on due to cutbacks;I have an ex husband who i have a great friendship with and who cares enough to be there for me,just does not want to be with me as a couple,so confusion often reigns in my head :), I have a male friend who would like more but to whom I cannot give more because I'm always hoping for my ex lol.,i had a severe cold for 2 weeks and to really grind me I had a bank appointment to alter my mortgage and add some extra money ,all agreed and they ahd no problem..but I did I suddenly hit panic and have not selpt well for 3 days ,tearful,anxiety,aches and tension..wham I felt like i had gone back 5 years !!! It was s if all my coping skills had never exsisted !!
I know now that everything just got too much , I did not step off when i could have done and I just kept the mountain going !!
I am now reinstating the skills I learnt whilst dealing with the aftermarth of the flood of anxiety. And I know I really do still need to set boundaries , and look after me.
Having had Miss anxiety for 34 years I guess I was expecting too much to believe I was 'cured'..BUT most of the time I'm ok,no I'm good..I just have to accept my limits and keep my eyes on the warning signs.
Thanks guys I needed to get that out :).
Any advice on staying good friends with ex husbands whilst moving on to another relationship greatly appreciated :))
love and good thoughts to all
jan:bighug1: