dnvjones
24-02-10, 19:47
I'm very glad to have found this site. Social anxiety is driving me mad, it seems like whatever I do, I cannot shake it.
One of my biggest fears currently is at work, I normally stay quiet most of the day if possible to avoid scrutiny. I sit on a table of 5-6 people and I genuinely fear when my boss (could also be any other colleague I want to please) leaves the table and comes back towards the desk and might see me blink too much or get embarrassed or the most humiliating if I have that petrified look in my eyes; if they see that then my confidence is immediately gone and I will beat myself up incessantly. This fear extends to most social situations with the unhelpful rule being that I must not show any emotion (go red, blink too much, show fear in my eyes, look uncomfortable). This means that I always feel as if I have something to hide from people and therefore I am never comfortable with people.
Can anyone relate to this/offer any advice in how to deal with this kind of situation / unhelpful rule?
Thanks x
One of my biggest fears currently is at work, I normally stay quiet most of the day if possible to avoid scrutiny. I sit on a table of 5-6 people and I genuinely fear when my boss (could also be any other colleague I want to please) leaves the table and comes back towards the desk and might see me blink too much or get embarrassed or the most humiliating if I have that petrified look in my eyes; if they see that then my confidence is immediately gone and I will beat myself up incessantly. This fear extends to most social situations with the unhelpful rule being that I must not show any emotion (go red, blink too much, show fear in my eyes, look uncomfortable). This means that I always feel as if I have something to hide from people and therefore I am never comfortable with people.
Can anyone relate to this/offer any advice in how to deal with this kind of situation / unhelpful rule?
Thanks x