BunnyMazonas
12-03-10, 15:44
Hi guys
I was hoping you young 'uns could offer some advice for me WRT to my little sister-in-law who has been having some problems. She's had a really tough couple of years emotionally, mentally and is under a lot of stress - her school hours are REALLY long (8-6 mon-fri and 9-3 sat, plus homework, swim club at lucnh,e x curricular activities and occassional sunday school stuff) and she's only 14.
Recently she's begun to buckle from it all - she's never spoken to anyone but we've heard rumours (a kid in her school told their mum who told the MIL who mentioned to us that SIL may have been seen crying privately on school grounds) and recently she's been caught bunking off from classes and skipping homework/tasks that she is supposed to have done. It doesn't sound like much, but considering how she normally is (seriously, this kid is a saint) this is a big change in her. I'm worried that she hasn't spoken about the things that I know have happened, and I worry maybe that more has happened that I don't know about.
I want her to know she can talk to me - confidentially - about anything but I know how hard it can be to open up. What I was thinking of doing - whe I was a kid and my friend and I were having problems, we had a shared diary. We each took turns having it for a week at a time and would write our daily activities, thoughts, feelings, dreams and problems in. Then the other would have it for a week and could write their own thoughts- and read what had been written. Do you think that would be a good approach? Would you deal well with something like this?
Otherwise, how would you prefer family members to approach you re: these sort of issues?
*not sure if this goes here but wasn't sure where else to put it, sorry*
I was hoping you young 'uns could offer some advice for me WRT to my little sister-in-law who has been having some problems. She's had a really tough couple of years emotionally, mentally and is under a lot of stress - her school hours are REALLY long (8-6 mon-fri and 9-3 sat, plus homework, swim club at lucnh,e x curricular activities and occassional sunday school stuff) and she's only 14.
Recently she's begun to buckle from it all - she's never spoken to anyone but we've heard rumours (a kid in her school told their mum who told the MIL who mentioned to us that SIL may have been seen crying privately on school grounds) and recently she's been caught bunking off from classes and skipping homework/tasks that she is supposed to have done. It doesn't sound like much, but considering how she normally is (seriously, this kid is a saint) this is a big change in her. I'm worried that she hasn't spoken about the things that I know have happened, and I worry maybe that more has happened that I don't know about.
I want her to know she can talk to me - confidentially - about anything but I know how hard it can be to open up. What I was thinking of doing - whe I was a kid and my friend and I were having problems, we had a shared diary. We each took turns having it for a week at a time and would write our daily activities, thoughts, feelings, dreams and problems in. Then the other would have it for a week and could write their own thoughts- and read what had been written. Do you think that would be a good approach? Would you deal well with something like this?
Otherwise, how would you prefer family members to approach you re: these sort of issues?
*not sure if this goes here but wasn't sure where else to put it, sorry*