Ronster
27-04-10, 19:59
Hello out there,
Need help, Long story short if I can. Ever since my disfuncional upbringing and the fact that I thought my parents should have never been married I have never been in a fullfilling relationship myself. Now 46, since my early 20's i have always bailed on numerous great ladies. As soon as they got serious I was gone. At age 30 my current wife and I got pregnant and I vowed that I would stick and work at this one to have a family for my number one love, my son. I have mentioned before that I have been a pot user for these same years and decided to give it up back in December. Problem now is instead of feeling better I have crashed into a depression and major anxiety state. It took about a month after sobering up. The quiting was to also help my marriage I hoped, it isin't the greatest nor is it the worst. The reason for my taking 20mg's was becasue of my crashing and partly due to the same old bailing of relationship feeling has once again arose. My problem now is after three weeks of Citalopram I am still getting major anxiety/negative thoughts about my relationship with my wife.
Understand this, I know if the relationship is not the right one or over that Citalopram is not going to fix it! But my question is, will it at least if and when it kicks in minimize my negative thought process even about my marriage and give my wife and I chance to work on it and give it a sober shot. The reason I'm asking is the fact that I may have to separate my son's family is eating at me and I'm wondering if I'm dreaming if I think the meds are going to settle me and help me make rash thought's and decision's without loosing it? If anyone out there has had a similiar experience I would really love to hear from you.
I guess the question is will the neds minimize all negative thoughts and allow you to think things through without panicking, is it possible it will give me a shot at bettering my marriage and get the fear of intimacy out of my head once and for all. I know my own childhood and family experience got a lot to do with this.
please pass on any thought's, this is making me crazy!
Ron
Need help, Long story short if I can. Ever since my disfuncional upbringing and the fact that I thought my parents should have never been married I have never been in a fullfilling relationship myself. Now 46, since my early 20's i have always bailed on numerous great ladies. As soon as they got serious I was gone. At age 30 my current wife and I got pregnant and I vowed that I would stick and work at this one to have a family for my number one love, my son. I have mentioned before that I have been a pot user for these same years and decided to give it up back in December. Problem now is instead of feeling better I have crashed into a depression and major anxiety state. It took about a month after sobering up. The quiting was to also help my marriage I hoped, it isin't the greatest nor is it the worst. The reason for my taking 20mg's was becasue of my crashing and partly due to the same old bailing of relationship feeling has once again arose. My problem now is after three weeks of Citalopram I am still getting major anxiety/negative thoughts about my relationship with my wife.
Understand this, I know if the relationship is not the right one or over that Citalopram is not going to fix it! But my question is, will it at least if and when it kicks in minimize my negative thought process even about my marriage and give my wife and I chance to work on it and give it a sober shot. The reason I'm asking is the fact that I may have to separate my son's family is eating at me and I'm wondering if I'm dreaming if I think the meds are going to settle me and help me make rash thought's and decision's without loosing it? If anyone out there has had a similiar experience I would really love to hear from you.
I guess the question is will the neds minimize all negative thoughts and allow you to think things through without panicking, is it possible it will give me a shot at bettering my marriage and get the fear of intimacy out of my head once and for all. I know my own childhood and family experience got a lot to do with this.
please pass on any thought's, this is making me crazy!
Ron