Piscian Daydreamer
07-02-06, 18:39
Hello everyone,
Sorry i havent been on for a while, i hope you are all doing okay.
Was wandering if you could just please give me some confidence.
I seem to have really built up an anxiety of clubbing, its horrible and i can't escape. I have become totally obsessed by pulling girls in night clubs, even though i am not that successful. If i never went clubbing, i would never see my friends so its the 'done thing'. I'd like to think i was good looking and shouldnt have such insecurity, but i do.
When i'm in clubs i feel 'desperate to pull' due to all my mates being around eyeing up the girls. I pull very occasionally, and this desperation makes me feel lonely. I don't even like the system, standing there, picking targets, chatting them up... 9 times out of 10 its just demoralising and leads nowhere, but because i havent had a proper girlfriend, i feel that this is the only way to ever meet girls, because of my lack of experience (im nearly 20) i am so insecure.
Due to this desperation, i am unable to enjoy nights out anymore, i try to pull girls i don't even fancy, just to try and relieve the curse of feeling so inexperienced with girs.
I know your all going to turn around and say 'there are other ways to meet girls other than clubs' but for me that has never been the case. I am active, sociable, go to many clubs, university but have never met a girl i can get to know well and make my move, clubs seem the only way with the LADS.
Its a horrible feeling it really is, this is strongly linked to my natural anxiety for which i am on medication, but i feel my mental and emotional problems will never be cured.
Please, just say anything to make me feel better,
Thanks so much for your time.
Sorry i havent been on for a while, i hope you are all doing okay.
Was wandering if you could just please give me some confidence.
I seem to have really built up an anxiety of clubbing, its horrible and i can't escape. I have become totally obsessed by pulling girls in night clubs, even though i am not that successful. If i never went clubbing, i would never see my friends so its the 'done thing'. I'd like to think i was good looking and shouldnt have such insecurity, but i do.
When i'm in clubs i feel 'desperate to pull' due to all my mates being around eyeing up the girls. I pull very occasionally, and this desperation makes me feel lonely. I don't even like the system, standing there, picking targets, chatting them up... 9 times out of 10 its just demoralising and leads nowhere, but because i havent had a proper girlfriend, i feel that this is the only way to ever meet girls, because of my lack of experience (im nearly 20) i am so insecure.
Due to this desperation, i am unable to enjoy nights out anymore, i try to pull girls i don't even fancy, just to try and relieve the curse of feeling so inexperienced with girs.
I know your all going to turn around and say 'there are other ways to meet girls other than clubs' but for me that has never been the case. I am active, sociable, go to many clubs, university but have never met a girl i can get to know well and make my move, clubs seem the only way with the LADS.
Its a horrible feeling it really is, this is strongly linked to my natural anxiety for which i am on medication, but i feel my mental and emotional problems will never be cured.
Please, just say anything to make me feel better,
Thanks so much for your time.