panicdiva
18-06-10, 19:53
I'm flying next Sat. I have had panic/anxiety/phobias for 12 yrs now. I have been feeling fairly positive about the flight & going away on holiday & even this morning I posted to a thread explaining how positive I was feeling & how I am learning to accept that this is who I am, but that's ok, and it's okay to feel anxiety but still do it anyway.
Then, I went out with my mother for a little while this aft. and we fell out. Basically my mum can be funny with me and without boring everyone with details, she was very cutting & nasty to me. She often is, often has been. This set me off again this aft with panic about flight as I feel so guilty about going away. I have realised before that whenever I go away on holiday & that includes even before I started to suffer from anxiety & panic, I feel sooooo guilty. But the guilt has gotten worse since I have had anxiety.
My husband keeps telling me that is the way your mother is, don't try to figure her out, it's her problem, I have nothing to feel guilty about etc. etc. But I don't understand why I feel guilty. I feel like a bad person. My mother has never been keen on holidays (prob for same reasons as me). She is claustraphobic & has been for as long as I can remember. She has not flown for 23yrs. When we did fly when I was younger (which was not often), she did not enjoy it at all. Whereas, I loved it. I loved airports, aeoroplanes, travelling, the whole thing. Since I had post natal depression 12 yrs ago, I no longer enjoy the whole travel thing to the point that my anxiety & panic overwhelm me.
My mother is funny with me about alot of things, not just holidays, and when she is like that with me, even though I know it's her problem, I feel crushed and the guilt overwhelms me & my anxiety goes into overdrive. I hate that I let her get to me like that.
Anyway, I just really needed abit of advice, and I am curious to know if anyone else feels alot of their anxiety/panic/phobias are connected to their feelings about their parents.
Thanks
Then, I went out with my mother for a little while this aft. and we fell out. Basically my mum can be funny with me and without boring everyone with details, she was very cutting & nasty to me. She often is, often has been. This set me off again this aft with panic about flight as I feel so guilty about going away. I have realised before that whenever I go away on holiday & that includes even before I started to suffer from anxiety & panic, I feel sooooo guilty. But the guilt has gotten worse since I have had anxiety.
My husband keeps telling me that is the way your mother is, don't try to figure her out, it's her problem, I have nothing to feel guilty about etc. etc. But I don't understand why I feel guilty. I feel like a bad person. My mother has never been keen on holidays (prob for same reasons as me). She is claustraphobic & has been for as long as I can remember. She has not flown for 23yrs. When we did fly when I was younger (which was not often), she did not enjoy it at all. Whereas, I loved it. I loved airports, aeoroplanes, travelling, the whole thing. Since I had post natal depression 12 yrs ago, I no longer enjoy the whole travel thing to the point that my anxiety & panic overwhelm me.
My mother is funny with me about alot of things, not just holidays, and when she is like that with me, even though I know it's her problem, I feel crushed and the guilt overwhelms me & my anxiety goes into overdrive. I hate that I let her get to me like that.
Anyway, I just really needed abit of advice, and I am curious to know if anyone else feels alot of their anxiety/panic/phobias are connected to their feelings about their parents.
Thanks