Lissy43
07-09-10, 11:22
Feel free to move this, I had no idea where to post this.
I suffer from health anxiety, have done on and off for years. I have had CBT, meds when it made me depressed 6 yrs ago..... I felt so much better last year. I was in university doing a nursing degree, I got through he first year and hubby and I split during this time. I ended up in an awful mess, started seeing someone else, ended up pregnant, pregnancy didn't go the way I thought it would, I considered abortion and actually went to the clinic for the consultation and scan, where i was told the baby had never grown but I needed the op to remove the empty sac. I went through it awake (worst and most terifying day of my life). I am terrified of surgery etc... so it was very scary for me, but I had to go through it:weep:
HUbby and I got back together, we have 3 children, everything that had caused our split had gone and we are now very happy. I am left with a horrible phobia of bleeding, so my periods freak me out an awful lot, my anxiety is sky high, i have this fear i will gush and bleed to death, it's horrible to feel like this. I have been this way since my first period after the op, it was so heavy.
My phobia got so bad that I left my degree, plus the man I had been seeing was in my cohort so I felt I had to stay away as it was unfair to myself, him and hubby to carry on studying with him there, even though I would never have had an affair, I actually was only seeing him 4 weeks and then ended things, it was 2 days later I realised i was pregnant, well so I thought:blush:
My kids are all fulltime in school now, I am at home all day feeling very lonely, ive no confidence to work due to my phobia. I feel so lost, no uni, no chldren around me. We talked about having another child last year, hubby had a vasectomy which i had changed my mind about but he still went ahead, this caused our split. So now we can't have children, and saving for the reversal is taking forever right now.
I just don't know if having another child is right for me after everything I have been through, is it just going backwards? but at the end of the day I worry I will always regret not having a 4th. I wanted a 4th a few years back, and because we couldn't the resentment grew, and grew towards hubby.
I always wanted to be a doctor, but with the childhood I had there was no way I could ever do it, so i married young, had children and that was my lot. I am proud of my children and my life, we want for nothing and i have married a good man who I love. I started nursing last year as a 2nd choice, I knew deep down it wasn't right for me though.
I am 31 soon, where is my life going? I feel my anxiety is stopping me having another child, studying or working. Today the tears just keep flowing, they won't stop everytime i think of my life, I am going nowhere and I feel I am just going backwards.
I suffer from health anxiety, have done on and off for years. I have had CBT, meds when it made me depressed 6 yrs ago..... I felt so much better last year. I was in university doing a nursing degree, I got through he first year and hubby and I split during this time. I ended up in an awful mess, started seeing someone else, ended up pregnant, pregnancy didn't go the way I thought it would, I considered abortion and actually went to the clinic for the consultation and scan, where i was told the baby had never grown but I needed the op to remove the empty sac. I went through it awake (worst and most terifying day of my life). I am terrified of surgery etc... so it was very scary for me, but I had to go through it:weep:
HUbby and I got back together, we have 3 children, everything that had caused our split had gone and we are now very happy. I am left with a horrible phobia of bleeding, so my periods freak me out an awful lot, my anxiety is sky high, i have this fear i will gush and bleed to death, it's horrible to feel like this. I have been this way since my first period after the op, it was so heavy.
My phobia got so bad that I left my degree, plus the man I had been seeing was in my cohort so I felt I had to stay away as it was unfair to myself, him and hubby to carry on studying with him there, even though I would never have had an affair, I actually was only seeing him 4 weeks and then ended things, it was 2 days later I realised i was pregnant, well so I thought:blush:
My kids are all fulltime in school now, I am at home all day feeling very lonely, ive no confidence to work due to my phobia. I feel so lost, no uni, no chldren around me. We talked about having another child last year, hubby had a vasectomy which i had changed my mind about but he still went ahead, this caused our split. So now we can't have children, and saving for the reversal is taking forever right now.
I just don't know if having another child is right for me after everything I have been through, is it just going backwards? but at the end of the day I worry I will always regret not having a 4th. I wanted a 4th a few years back, and because we couldn't the resentment grew, and grew towards hubby.
I always wanted to be a doctor, but with the childhood I had there was no way I could ever do it, so i married young, had children and that was my lot. I am proud of my children and my life, we want for nothing and i have married a good man who I love. I started nursing last year as a 2nd choice, I knew deep down it wasn't right for me though.
I am 31 soon, where is my life going? I feel my anxiety is stopping me having another child, studying or working. Today the tears just keep flowing, they won't stop everytime i think of my life, I am going nowhere and I feel I am just going backwards.