Rachel W
14-09-10, 23:37
Hello all,
I am 39, but 40 soon and I have been away from my boyfriend for over a year to spend time in the UK with my family (I am English) and am going back to the US next month. Due to my anxiety disorder, he has been hesitant to want to marry and have a family with me as he worries how I would cope with having OCD. I really believe that I have enough strength in me to do fine and work through it, so I have decided to really show that I can act normally as best I can when I go home.
I really want a family so would want to do so in the near future but I read about getting pregnant after 40 and learned that it is more difficult than I imagined (both my grandmothers were 41 when they had my parents and my Mum didn't go through menopause until she was 54 (I think she started symptoms at about 49), so I wasn't too worried about it.
I have put on here in the past about the burning skin sensations that I have when I lean against something for a while, although when I was more active and going out more it got better for quite a few months. Once the weather started to get wet in July I spent more time inside again and it seemed to come back. This also makes me feel hot sometimes.
However lately I have also been feeling hot. When I ask my Mum she admits that it is warm, but then the more i worry about it I get even warmer. Sometimes it is like a rising heat (but not intense).
I have gotten this a lot in the past when faced with something that has upset me, especially if it is 'sudden' thought or fear, but now I am terrified that I could be having hot flushes.
My Mum says that they are not as she had them and they are usually intense, but I am worried that they could be the start.
I REALLY want a baby of my own, and now I am terrified that it could be too late. I have been thinking about it non-stop for two weeks. Could the worry bring on these feelings of being hot. I am usually hot-blooded and if I am in a warm house usually feel warmer than others; it is how i have been. In the past when i have been going somewhere and had to rush, or am excited about it I have had times where I have become extremely flushed (bright red), so this is normal for me.
Please help. I am SO worried. Does anyone go through stages where they feel warm a lot. I just can't tell if it is me or the room making me feel hot. I get a little sensation of rising heat, which is typical when I get scared, so cannot tell.
I read that stress can bring on menopause or perimenopause early. :(
Could it just be stress unbalancing my body and could it get better if I relax.
In addition, does anyone know of people who got pregnant for the first time over 40?
I am 39, but 40 soon and I have been away from my boyfriend for over a year to spend time in the UK with my family (I am English) and am going back to the US next month. Due to my anxiety disorder, he has been hesitant to want to marry and have a family with me as he worries how I would cope with having OCD. I really believe that I have enough strength in me to do fine and work through it, so I have decided to really show that I can act normally as best I can when I go home.
I really want a family so would want to do so in the near future but I read about getting pregnant after 40 and learned that it is more difficult than I imagined (both my grandmothers were 41 when they had my parents and my Mum didn't go through menopause until she was 54 (I think she started symptoms at about 49), so I wasn't too worried about it.
I have put on here in the past about the burning skin sensations that I have when I lean against something for a while, although when I was more active and going out more it got better for quite a few months. Once the weather started to get wet in July I spent more time inside again and it seemed to come back. This also makes me feel hot sometimes.
However lately I have also been feeling hot. When I ask my Mum she admits that it is warm, but then the more i worry about it I get even warmer. Sometimes it is like a rising heat (but not intense).
I have gotten this a lot in the past when faced with something that has upset me, especially if it is 'sudden' thought or fear, but now I am terrified that I could be having hot flushes.
My Mum says that they are not as she had them and they are usually intense, but I am worried that they could be the start.
I REALLY want a baby of my own, and now I am terrified that it could be too late. I have been thinking about it non-stop for two weeks. Could the worry bring on these feelings of being hot. I am usually hot-blooded and if I am in a warm house usually feel warmer than others; it is how i have been. In the past when i have been going somewhere and had to rush, or am excited about it I have had times where I have become extremely flushed (bright red), so this is normal for me.
Please help. I am SO worried. Does anyone go through stages where they feel warm a lot. I just can't tell if it is me or the room making me feel hot. I get a little sensation of rising heat, which is typical when I get scared, so cannot tell.
I read that stress can bring on menopause or perimenopause early. :(
Could it just be stress unbalancing my body and could it get better if I relax.
In addition, does anyone know of people who got pregnant for the first time over 40?