unspoken
15-09-10, 19:38
I'm not quite sure where to put this. A situation has been causing me considerable anxiety for the past 3 years.
A very brief summary: 4 years ago, at university, I became friends with a young man who lived in my halls. In the 2nd year (3 years ago) we moved into a house together with 3 others. His behaviour became increasingly strange and unpredictable and he'd be friendly and then he'd accuse me of being a horrible person and say that I didn't care about anyone else's feelings. I told him I couldn't talk to him any more so he started to send me text messages, from within the same house, which I never replied to. Eventually I had to leave the house and move in with a friend because he literally would not leave me alone. I was really scared of him. This was in June 2008. He always denied harassing me and said he was entirely justified to sit outside my bedroom at 3am demanding that I talk to him.
I've seen him once since, when he ignored me. He kept on texting me sporadically though. About 6 months ago, he texted me out of the blue asking how I was. I thought I might be able to make peace with him so I sent a reply saying "I'm fine how are you?" and we had a brief chat by text and that was it. I felt better about things. But then he got back in touch again and got more intense and said stuff that scared me, like "I've not met anyone as good as you and when I meet people I always compare them to you". He wanted to meet up. I told him I don't think that's a good idea. And he turned nasty. Accusing me of things again. So for the past 4 months or so, he's been texting and calling me, despite me telling him not to talk to me any more.
As an example, last night he sent "Why are you ignoring me?" followed by "Can i have an answer?" and then "Do you enjoy this?"
He's trying to goad me into replying. I know that it would be like pouring petrol on a fire though. This has been going on for several years now and when we were living together, I was first diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder and I think it had a lot to do with living with him and what I was subjected to. He still doesn't believe he's ever done anything wrong though.
My phone company say they can't block his number and if I changed my number I worry that he'd find it out. He's also used email to contact me. I've made it clear on a number of occasions that I don't want to hear from him. I think my only remaining option really is to ask a solicitor to write a formal letter to him and then if that doesn't work to pursue a restraining order. Does anyone have any experience of this or any ideas what I can do? Thanks.
A very brief summary: 4 years ago, at university, I became friends with a young man who lived in my halls. In the 2nd year (3 years ago) we moved into a house together with 3 others. His behaviour became increasingly strange and unpredictable and he'd be friendly and then he'd accuse me of being a horrible person and say that I didn't care about anyone else's feelings. I told him I couldn't talk to him any more so he started to send me text messages, from within the same house, which I never replied to. Eventually I had to leave the house and move in with a friend because he literally would not leave me alone. I was really scared of him. This was in June 2008. He always denied harassing me and said he was entirely justified to sit outside my bedroom at 3am demanding that I talk to him.
I've seen him once since, when he ignored me. He kept on texting me sporadically though. About 6 months ago, he texted me out of the blue asking how I was. I thought I might be able to make peace with him so I sent a reply saying "I'm fine how are you?" and we had a brief chat by text and that was it. I felt better about things. But then he got back in touch again and got more intense and said stuff that scared me, like "I've not met anyone as good as you and when I meet people I always compare them to you". He wanted to meet up. I told him I don't think that's a good idea. And he turned nasty. Accusing me of things again. So for the past 4 months or so, he's been texting and calling me, despite me telling him not to talk to me any more.
As an example, last night he sent "Why are you ignoring me?" followed by "Can i have an answer?" and then "Do you enjoy this?"
He's trying to goad me into replying. I know that it would be like pouring petrol on a fire though. This has been going on for several years now and when we were living together, I was first diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder and I think it had a lot to do with living with him and what I was subjected to. He still doesn't believe he's ever done anything wrong though.
My phone company say they can't block his number and if I changed my number I worry that he'd find it out. He's also used email to contact me. I've made it clear on a number of occasions that I don't want to hear from him. I think my only remaining option really is to ask a solicitor to write a formal letter to him and then if that doesn't work to pursue a restraining order. Does anyone have any experience of this or any ideas what I can do? Thanks.