Bud
16-09-10, 03:22
Hello everyone, and thank you for checking out this thread.
My name is Bud, and my girlfriend has severe panic disorder.
I am writing this thread to tell you my story, and hopefully recieve some enlightenment.
First let me start by saying that my girlfriend and I grew up together. We atteneded grammar school from 1st through 8th grade, and also high school. We were always friends then, but when high school started, she had a whole new group of friends, and I lost touch with her. Mind you we were only friends in these days...... Next thing I know she left high school, and I had not seen here since.
Jumping 10 years ahead, October 2009, We finally meet again.
It seemed as though it was ment to be. Both single, 26 years old, and both wanting a relationship. She mentioned her panic, which I was amazed to hear, because I never thought she had any problems.....
In our first months of dating, we would go out drinking all the time. At first I never noticed anything wrong, but then the drinking was getting way out of hand, and I knew she was abusing the alcohol.
Next I find out all the medications she is on.....celexa ,xanax xr, and valium. I say to myself, holy cow she is not supposed to be touching any alcohol. After a million fights, I made an ultimatum......no more drinking for the both of us, or its over.
I always had fun going out partying, and so on. But hey, this woman is very important to me, and ending the drinking was not a problem. In fact, Ive been a much healther individual, and from what I can tell, so has she....
I'm keeping my fingers crossed that she will stay away from the drinking....
Next, the panic itself. She claims I do not understand her disorder, and need to come here and learn about it for myself.
So far, the website has been very informative, but I have a few points I would like to bring up:
The medications she is taking (celexa ,xanax xr, and valium) have been prescribed by a generic doctor. Should not she in fact see a specialist? I'm not professional here, but she is on some strong meds...are they the right ones?
She is agoraphobic- No job, no income, no insurance. Stays at home all day watches TV, and a few chores here and there. Sure she comes over to my place, but we are big movie goers, and are always watching TV! Dont get me wrong I try to go out and try new things with her, but the thing that makes me most nervous is staying away from any alcohol. Yes, Ive made the mistake of pushing her to get a job, so on and so fourth, but hey it can be frustrating at times.....Any enlightment on this matter would greatly help
Lately the relationship itself (sex drive, over all compassion for myself) has taken a screeching hault. Ive brought these matters up with her, but am I doing more harm than good??? Sometimes I feel like I can't say anything to her because it will all be bad news
OK, I don't want to stick everyone with a novel here, but this is just the tip of the iceburg. Please tell me your thoughts, ideas, solutions, anything! I will gladly respond, and add any additional info.
Thanks for your time reading, and talk to you soon.....
BUD
My name is Bud, and my girlfriend has severe panic disorder.
I am writing this thread to tell you my story, and hopefully recieve some enlightenment.
First let me start by saying that my girlfriend and I grew up together. We atteneded grammar school from 1st through 8th grade, and also high school. We were always friends then, but when high school started, she had a whole new group of friends, and I lost touch with her. Mind you we were only friends in these days...... Next thing I know she left high school, and I had not seen here since.
Jumping 10 years ahead, October 2009, We finally meet again.
It seemed as though it was ment to be. Both single, 26 years old, and both wanting a relationship. She mentioned her panic, which I was amazed to hear, because I never thought she had any problems.....
In our first months of dating, we would go out drinking all the time. At first I never noticed anything wrong, but then the drinking was getting way out of hand, and I knew she was abusing the alcohol.
Next I find out all the medications she is on.....celexa ,xanax xr, and valium. I say to myself, holy cow she is not supposed to be touching any alcohol. After a million fights, I made an ultimatum......no more drinking for the both of us, or its over.
I always had fun going out partying, and so on. But hey, this woman is very important to me, and ending the drinking was not a problem. In fact, Ive been a much healther individual, and from what I can tell, so has she....
I'm keeping my fingers crossed that she will stay away from the drinking....
Next, the panic itself. She claims I do not understand her disorder, and need to come here and learn about it for myself.
So far, the website has been very informative, but I have a few points I would like to bring up:
The medications she is taking (celexa ,xanax xr, and valium) have been prescribed by a generic doctor. Should not she in fact see a specialist? I'm not professional here, but she is on some strong meds...are they the right ones?
She is agoraphobic- No job, no income, no insurance. Stays at home all day watches TV, and a few chores here and there. Sure she comes over to my place, but we are big movie goers, and are always watching TV! Dont get me wrong I try to go out and try new things with her, but the thing that makes me most nervous is staying away from any alcohol. Yes, Ive made the mistake of pushing her to get a job, so on and so fourth, but hey it can be frustrating at times.....Any enlightment on this matter would greatly help
Lately the relationship itself (sex drive, over all compassion for myself) has taken a screeching hault. Ive brought these matters up with her, but am I doing more harm than good??? Sometimes I feel like I can't say anything to her because it will all be bad news
OK, I don't want to stick everyone with a novel here, but this is just the tip of the iceburg. Please tell me your thoughts, ideas, solutions, anything! I will gladly respond, and add any additional info.
Thanks for your time reading, and talk to you soon.....
BUD