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20-09-10, 17:45
Well you may or may not have a sexual performance anxiety. You have to ask yourself several questions to try to narrow it down and find out if you have a medical condition of the mind or a physical one. Some men tend to have bouts of impatcy as they get older but usually it doesn’t last for a long time. Not being able to get erect can be caused by mental or physical conditions and we are going to concentrate for now on the Mental Aspect. Chances are the problems you have with sexual performance is in your mind and not caused by a physical disability.
1) Do you find yourself thinking of other things such as work, your day, problems at home, during or right before having sex?
2) Do you worry or get stressed out about the thought of being able or capable to satisfy your partners sexual needs and wants?
3) Do you ever think about your size and think that you are too small and worry about what your partner thinks of it?
4) Do you not get aroused mentally or do you have to try and make your mind and thoughts get in the mood?
5) Has your partner put on weight or lost a lot of weight making you feel less sexually attracted to him or to her?
6) Have you gained weight and are feeling less attractive and worrying about what your partner thinks?
7) Do you have a fear of not being able to get erect?
The questions above are the 7 basic questions you should ask yourself to help you find the problem you have with a possible sex anxiety
What can I do About my Love Anxiety?
Relax, and stop thinking about it so much. We tend to put so much thought into sex and performance that it prevents us from achieving that which we want. Base your relationship on love and being together and not what happens in bed. Although sex maybe a wonderful thing it should be a very small part of your relationship and not the main thing that keeps you happy and together. Here are some things you can do to help rid yourself of a sexual disorders and try to get you back in the saddle again. To do this you have to be able to reprogram your mind not to worry so you can cure Anxiety that is controlling your activities.
1) Relax, Breathe, and clear your mind prior to any activities.
2) Give your partner a body massage and when you do think about how soft and beautiful her skin looks and feels. Use lotion so your hands easily glide over her soft and silky skin. Start with the neck and back and then go to the feet and work your way up. Take your time and don’t rush things, in fact have it in your mind that you may or may not make love that the wonderful thing your doing is the massage.
3) Smell her hair and neck while you rub or massage her. People often put out pheromones that are their to excite the other partner. Kiss the back of the neck and the ears but don’t stop massaging her. Understand in your mind that you are leasing her or him very much just by giving a slow enjoyable massage.
4) The butt is a very sensitive area so when massaging after most of the body has been rubbed with loving hands then move to and massage the butt cheeks and then up the back. Repeat his over and over in long and gentle rubbing as your hands glide up and down on your partner. Be prepared to massage your partner for at least 30 minutes or more. Now don’t go setting a timer or anything, you don’t want to be constrained to anything. Just relax, help your partner relax and enjoy.
5) If this doesn’t excite you yet its OK. The first time you do it try to do it without the basis or thought of having sex. You instead have a goal to satisfy your partner and it has nothing to do with your needs. When you start to see your partner get satisfied as you give to them without expectations it should trigger a sexual awareness and mind set. You should plan on doing this several nights a week with the thought of being a giver without expectations for yourself. This will not only relax you and eliminate stress and love depression, but it will make you loved and needed more then ever by your partner. Before you know it life behind closed doors will keep you standing at attention. Your partner will start doing things for you and your relationship will get better and better as you think about each other and not yourselves. “Keep the focus off sex and put it on LOVE
1) Do you find yourself thinking of other things such as work, your day, problems at home, during or right before having sex?
2) Do you worry or get stressed out about the thought of being able or capable to satisfy your partners sexual needs and wants?
3) Do you ever think about your size and think that you are too small and worry about what your partner thinks of it?
4) Do you not get aroused mentally or do you have to try and make your mind and thoughts get in the mood?
5) Has your partner put on weight or lost a lot of weight making you feel less sexually attracted to him or to her?
6) Have you gained weight and are feeling less attractive and worrying about what your partner thinks?
7) Do you have a fear of not being able to get erect?
The questions above are the 7 basic questions you should ask yourself to help you find the problem you have with a possible sex anxiety
What can I do About my Love Anxiety?
Relax, and stop thinking about it so much. We tend to put so much thought into sex and performance that it prevents us from achieving that which we want. Base your relationship on love and being together and not what happens in bed. Although sex maybe a wonderful thing it should be a very small part of your relationship and not the main thing that keeps you happy and together. Here are some things you can do to help rid yourself of a sexual disorders and try to get you back in the saddle again. To do this you have to be able to reprogram your mind not to worry so you can cure Anxiety that is controlling your activities.
1) Relax, Breathe, and clear your mind prior to any activities.
2) Give your partner a body massage and when you do think about how soft and beautiful her skin looks and feels. Use lotion so your hands easily glide over her soft and silky skin. Start with the neck and back and then go to the feet and work your way up. Take your time and don’t rush things, in fact have it in your mind that you may or may not make love that the wonderful thing your doing is the massage.
3) Smell her hair and neck while you rub or massage her. People often put out pheromones that are their to excite the other partner. Kiss the back of the neck and the ears but don’t stop massaging her. Understand in your mind that you are leasing her or him very much just by giving a slow enjoyable massage.
4) The butt is a very sensitive area so when massaging after most of the body has been rubbed with loving hands then move to and massage the butt cheeks and then up the back. Repeat his over and over in long and gentle rubbing as your hands glide up and down on your partner. Be prepared to massage your partner for at least 30 minutes or more. Now don’t go setting a timer or anything, you don’t want to be constrained to anything. Just relax, help your partner relax and enjoy.
5) If this doesn’t excite you yet its OK. The first time you do it try to do it without the basis or thought of having sex. You instead have a goal to satisfy your partner and it has nothing to do with your needs. When you start to see your partner get satisfied as you give to them without expectations it should trigger a sexual awareness and mind set. You should plan on doing this several nights a week with the thought of being a giver without expectations for yourself. This will not only relax you and eliminate stress and love depression, but it will make you loved and needed more then ever by your partner. Before you know it life behind closed doors will keep you standing at attention. Your partner will start doing things for you and your relationship will get better and better as you think about each other and not yourselves. “Keep the focus off sex and put it on LOVE