compassionate
11-10-10, 22:00
Hello
I'd really like to find out more about other people's experiences about recognising you have some anxiety problems. My husband is anxious about spilt milk, being away from somewhere he can wash/shower, flying in a plane, sleeping, being sick... There is quite a long list. I have tried very unsuccessfully to help him to look at the impact of these problems but by talking about it he now sees me as the source of his stress. He is currently quite low and unable to help much with our young daughter. My emotions swing between guilt for not being able to keep the house tidy enough/calm enough for him and resentment/frustration for him not recognising that we can't go on holiday, have friends round and for not giving me any support. How can the partner of someone who has anxiety attacks get the balance right between letting them look at their fears at their own pace and helping them to see the patterns of panic that cause such a lot of stress to them and their family?
I'd really like to find out more about other people's experiences about recognising you have some anxiety problems. My husband is anxious about spilt milk, being away from somewhere he can wash/shower, flying in a plane, sleeping, being sick... There is quite a long list. I have tried very unsuccessfully to help him to look at the impact of these problems but by talking about it he now sees me as the source of his stress. He is currently quite low and unable to help much with our young daughter. My emotions swing between guilt for not being able to keep the house tidy enough/calm enough for him and resentment/frustration for him not recognising that we can't go on holiday, have friends round and for not giving me any support. How can the partner of someone who has anxiety attacks get the balance right between letting them look at their fears at their own pace and helping them to see the patterns of panic that cause such a lot of stress to them and their family?