harasgenster
27-11-10, 00:21
Hi
I'm currently doing a free course of CBT called Beating the Blues. As part of the course I have to find inner beliefs and challenge them by thinking of alternatives. The course has already explained that this won't help if I don't believe any of the alternatives but it didn't really explain what to do if you can't think of any alternatives you believe.
Two of the inner beliefs I found were:
"If I'm not the prettiest/thinnest girl my boyfriend will wish he was with someone else" (I think this one might actually be "If I'm not the prettiest/thinnest girl in the room I am a lesser person".)
"If I'm not successful my life will not have purpose and I will be incapable of happiness".
I've managed to think of alternatives to challenge these thoughts - arguments against them - but I don't believe any of them and some of them actually make me feel worse! For instance, with the last one, if I try and tell myself I could be happy without finding success in the field I'm aiming for because I will still have many other things in my life I'm happy with, this just feels like settling for second best!
Has anyone else had trouble with this? How did you find challenging thoughts you believed?
Thanks
I'm currently doing a free course of CBT called Beating the Blues. As part of the course I have to find inner beliefs and challenge them by thinking of alternatives. The course has already explained that this won't help if I don't believe any of the alternatives but it didn't really explain what to do if you can't think of any alternatives you believe.
Two of the inner beliefs I found were:
"If I'm not the prettiest/thinnest girl my boyfriend will wish he was with someone else" (I think this one might actually be "If I'm not the prettiest/thinnest girl in the room I am a lesser person".)
"If I'm not successful my life will not have purpose and I will be incapable of happiness".
I've managed to think of alternatives to challenge these thoughts - arguments against them - but I don't believe any of them and some of them actually make me feel worse! For instance, with the last one, if I try and tell myself I could be happy without finding success in the field I'm aiming for because I will still have many other things in my life I'm happy with, this just feels like settling for second best!
Has anyone else had trouble with this? How did you find challenging thoughts you believed?
Thanks