fulloffaith
28-11-10, 14:48
I am hoping someone can help me to be a better partner to my loved one who suffers from general anxiety and separation anxiety. I do not suffer from separation anixety but my loved one does and it is causing me to feel worry so I have not planned any trips for places in which I would like to go. My uncle would like to send me a plane ticket and I will stay at his house with family so it is not a money issue...it is the issue that if I even mention going away my loved one immediately gets angry and starts an argument for bringing it up.
I know he has said to me that he doesn't want to hold me back in life but the real thing is, I want him to come with me on these trips! I want him to travel with me and to see places and to experience beautiful places. He has taken steps..he usually focuses on the actual mileage distance and increase by 5-10 miles each trip. Most recently he did very well with our 35 mile trip and had a terrific time. I know this is helpful and re-enforcing for him that good times come along with travel but now i would like to go more places. I am focusing on being patient and supportive to his needs but I am also never sure of the right time to bring this up and talk to him. My other family member had mentioned a trip for the ladies to another state and panic set in for me that if I tell my loved one, he will either start an argument as a defense or create a reason for me not to go. I am not sure whether this comes from this frustration that he does not fly on a plane or travel that far or that I will be away or both.
I am hoping someone is able to share some advice and help me to use Cognitive therapy to slowly progress so that not only can I go on little trips with friends but we can go together!
Thank you!
I know he has said to me that he doesn't want to hold me back in life but the real thing is, I want him to come with me on these trips! I want him to travel with me and to see places and to experience beautiful places. He has taken steps..he usually focuses on the actual mileage distance and increase by 5-10 miles each trip. Most recently he did very well with our 35 mile trip and had a terrific time. I know this is helpful and re-enforcing for him that good times come along with travel but now i would like to go more places. I am focusing on being patient and supportive to his needs but I am also never sure of the right time to bring this up and talk to him. My other family member had mentioned a trip for the ladies to another state and panic set in for me that if I tell my loved one, he will either start an argument as a defense or create a reason for me not to go. I am not sure whether this comes from this frustration that he does not fly on a plane or travel that far or that I will be away or both.
I am hoping someone is able to share some advice and help me to use Cognitive therapy to slowly progress so that not only can I go on little trips with friends but we can go together!
Thank you!