Cat80
26-12-10, 16:51
I have depression and anxiety and since it's been bad I have relied on my Mum and my sister to be there for me, to support me, take me out places (don't go out much anywhere on my own) etc.
Me and my sister used to do everything together, day trips, shopping, going into town for coffee and clothes shopping etc. My depression got bad again about 8 months ago now and sister could see it happening and said right we are going to spend time together and do lots of things so it can't get out of hand again. We started going on day trips away from home to get me away from things etc and I was feeling a little better, then sister gets a boyfriend. She has now been with him 6 months and I barely see her. We both still live at home but am lucky if she is here one day a week (we used to spend our evenings together) as she's always at his (she's 29 he's 23 and both are each others first relationship). We have spent the last 6 months arguing about the fact I never get to see her anymore and her saying tough basically.
We've both had a rough year, me mentally and her physically. She was told she had stage 4 endometriosis about 7 months ago and has basically spent the year in pain every month, in and out of hospital etc.I have been there for her through it all, cooked all her meals, done the cleaning, been at the hospital with her, made cups of tea, bought painkillers etc because she's my sister and I cannot bare to see her in pain. She started on injections 5 months ago to stop her periods and since then I don't see her. I feel like it was ok for me to be there for her but not her to support me when I am going through hell myself and it's causing so many arguments and so much upset between us all :weep:
I know I have developed a dependancy on my sister because that's all it's been all our lives, just us. I know she needs her own life and I need to try and get one of my own but it's just so hard when you are so low and don't feel like life is worth living. I just need a little support from my sister but all I get is she appreciates how I looked after her but I had nothing to give up to do that and she would have something to give up if she helped me (why, can't she have a boyfriend and be a sister). She's 29 and I'm 30 and we should be able to get along but things have changed too much.
I have the Dr's again on 4th Jan, am going to ask to be referred to a psychiatrist to see if I can get some help as nothing has worked so far. Sorry for going on and boring you all, just felt I needed to let it all out.
Me and my sister used to do everything together, day trips, shopping, going into town for coffee and clothes shopping etc. My depression got bad again about 8 months ago now and sister could see it happening and said right we are going to spend time together and do lots of things so it can't get out of hand again. We started going on day trips away from home to get me away from things etc and I was feeling a little better, then sister gets a boyfriend. She has now been with him 6 months and I barely see her. We both still live at home but am lucky if she is here one day a week (we used to spend our evenings together) as she's always at his (she's 29 he's 23 and both are each others first relationship). We have spent the last 6 months arguing about the fact I never get to see her anymore and her saying tough basically.
We've both had a rough year, me mentally and her physically. She was told she had stage 4 endometriosis about 7 months ago and has basically spent the year in pain every month, in and out of hospital etc.I have been there for her through it all, cooked all her meals, done the cleaning, been at the hospital with her, made cups of tea, bought painkillers etc because she's my sister and I cannot bare to see her in pain. She started on injections 5 months ago to stop her periods and since then I don't see her. I feel like it was ok for me to be there for her but not her to support me when I am going through hell myself and it's causing so many arguments and so much upset between us all :weep:
I know I have developed a dependancy on my sister because that's all it's been all our lives, just us. I know she needs her own life and I need to try and get one of my own but it's just so hard when you are so low and don't feel like life is worth living. I just need a little support from my sister but all I get is she appreciates how I looked after her but I had nothing to give up to do that and she would have something to give up if she helped me (why, can't she have a boyfriend and be a sister). She's 29 and I'm 30 and we should be able to get along but things have changed too much.
I have the Dr's again on 4th Jan, am going to ask to be referred to a psychiatrist to see if I can get some help as nothing has worked so far. Sorry for going on and boring you all, just felt I needed to let it all out.